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IMPORTANT, What the hell is this???

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by kriss93, Sep 14, 2015.

  1. kriss93

    kriss93 Fapstronaut

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    In the last 2-3 days, my HOCD turned into a big anger feeling towards men, I'm afraid that I can easily kill a man, or when I see a man (especially a "good looking man") I would like the beat him immediately. I've never had these particular thoughts before... what does this mean? :/
    (I'm worrying because in my head these anger feels very real and I don't want to hurt anybody or do something wrong...)
     
  2. kriss93

    kriss93 Fapstronaut

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    Somebody can say something? Even if it's a "bad" opinion....because I feel that I'm the only one who have these thoughts...
     
  3. Indignation

    Indignation Fapstronaut

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    Hey Kriss,

    Yeah I've had violent thoughts in the past, but not so much anymore. Is there a reason why your anger is toward men and especially "good looking men"? I'd recommend working out intensely to get your anger out in a healthy way. Hitting a bag is great, or running.
     
  4. monkotto

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    right kriss extrem anger and aggression. i have the same problem.
    i have an older uncle. he is 60 now. he was/is very aggressive. damn my core is like him.
    he worked over 20 years as doorman in big discos. he was/is very brutal.
    i also dont want to hurt anybody - like you said above.
    using drugs, porn and alcohol was a way to cover this aggressive core inside me.
    i or we have to learn to live with this aggression or with this anger.
    therapy is helping me - maybe i must start using some (calming) medicine.
    and sports (swimming, running) of course. the most important valve against aggression.
     
  5. kriss93

    kriss93 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your comments.

    Insanezombieman I think the main reason is envyness and I think about myself that I'm not enough "manly" for them...(Because I have a "pretty boy" face, don't have much beard or moustage and etc.)... I think this could be the main reason. I should learn "manliness" again, and BELIEVE myself that because of I haven't got much beard and moustage and other "man attribute" I CAN be a real man and I also WANT to be.

    Any suggestions how can I earn that?
    I started to working out 2-3 times / week, but because of my HOCD I know that a lot of gay/bi guy has very masculine body (don't know why, I always thought that gays are feminitive...) and my HOCD whispers me that "You will be the same...." :/
     
  6. Find your model. Who's manly enough to be your guide? Watch as he moves, listen carefully how he talk with someone and try to inject it in your life. Don't be harsh to yourself. Take little steps. For now, just try to not slouch. Look straight before you, raise your head and take control of your life. When you do it, a massive changes will occur in your life. Be ready to survive this storm.
    Beard and moustache is not an attribute of a men, but just decoration. Real men will follow his own rules. Be something more than gentleman. Set some rules for yourself and laugh for these guys, who says that beard and moustache make a men. Of course, woman will tell you that it is sexy or really attractive, but mate - one can have beard, moustache, be really muscled, but if he's rude for another people, he's just asshole.
    When you're looking at these "good looking men", say "damn, they are looking so good" and your emotions should change with time from negative to positive. Take your time.
     

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