More attracted to watching sex then actually doing it?

I have the same experience. Because in Porn you can see the women body in different angles, the face of the women and so on.
Roman Emporer Tiberius and Caligula let their slaves have Sex in front of them. It was more exciting than to have own sex.
I admit, that masturbation is also more satisfaction than normal sex, cause you know your body better and know how to control the situation.

 

P0rn turns you into a cuck, basically.

 

Yeah, the same problem for me. Porn feels more exciting than real sex.

However, I was on a 120 day run a while ago, and there I got my taste back for real sex.

So my best suggestion for curing this is going on a NoFap streak. You will find your partner more attractive, and if your single, you will do more work, finding a real partner.

 

Same issue, and ive abandoned porn for years already and had quite a lot of sex.. it takes a looooong time for me to readjust. Some best times of having sex were better than porn tho. So ..

 

Do u have any personal suggestions on how to readjust? I am abstaining from porn seriously, but it seems like in this very moment i'm not attracted either from sex or porn. I am trying to do exercises with my imagination instead of using porn, (just started) to make it easier. Have u tried anything in particular ?

 

Excercising with your imagination = fantasizing = mental porn usage. Its the WORSE. Stop it, it absolutrly hinders any progress and leads to relapse.

Instead do this
1) dewire by stop PMO
2) RE-WIRE by having a sex with your girl (no prostitutes)

This is the only way which works.

If u want it even better, learn to not ejaculate during sex. Do not orgasm.

 

It's quite understandable actually. In a lot of mainstream/industry content, everything is glamorized and edited beyond belief. Every camera angle has to be perfect, every noise and movement scripted, it's the equivalent of thinking an action movie represents real life. Of course the action movie sounds more preferable! It doesn't show any of the strange sounds, or mess ups, or awkwardness, or smells, or imperfect visuals in real sex and intimacy. I don't think it's training you to be a cuck or anything like that, because even real life cuckholdry isn't as glamorous as its video equivalent! Even if the actors themselves tend to be in great discomfort most of the shooting, the presentation is pretty enough for the viewer to get past that. It's a pit that a lot of addicts and non addicts alike fall into, so don't feel like you've done anything wrong in particular.

My advice would be to at the very least stop watching industry content permanently, and even amateur stuff - while still harmful - is not nearly as bad since it often has those aforementioned elements that the big industry stuff doesn't. Best thing you can do however is to stop watching and start focusing on the real thing. If you continue to MO after, the best solution is to just focus on your physical body, or encounters you've had before, rather than replaying those picture perfect clips in your mind.

 

Whatever, prostitutes are a rabit hole and at the bottom is the same misery as at the botom of porn. Enjoy if thats your thing. Prostitutes are empty and its a substitute to porn. Thats why your porn influenced brain came up with this briliant idea...

 

A reboot will only heal the process in which it takes to feel normal again and situate the problem. It really sucks because I am in the same situation, but we got to control our self's.

Online has re wired our brains to enjoy fake slush rather then the real deal... Just imagine one day, you do get a beautiful vibrant Woman, but it's less appealing in bed. This can be something to look up to.

 

Because prostitutes are live porn. You are using them and paying for them to “ accept” you as opposed to a genuine connection you might have with someone you aren’t paying.

 

Porn is bad because of the dopamine high you get. As an addict you will just switch your high to real life woman which isn’t healthy. Maybe go to the posts about people who are now addicted to hookers instead of just porn and see how that’s working out for them.

 

Yes, this site is full of those posts. Read em or not, do what u want. You have been warned, cant do anything more for u bro.