Why do guys lie about their penis size so much? LOL

Or, as an ex-girlfriend put it, "A bad workman blames his tool".

 

I heard the other day that there are 'growers' and 'showers' when it comes to guys and penis'.
The showers are full size even when flaccid but the growers are much smaller when soft and 'grow' when hard.
So I'm certainly a grower lol because I look small soft but an average to decent when erect.
Does this ring true for other guys?
Perhaps the growers lie more because it's small more often??

 

Yes, I am a grower from half size to double size.

 

I wonder if growers suffer from more ED than showers, excusing my crudeness i know i sometimes have 'bad days' to which i suspect from passed around knowledge is relatively common to experience ED in people with bigger penises, resulting in a lack of stimulation, insensitivity or poor performance, diet comes into play too, i drink a lot of tea and it hinders my PMO resistance since tea is a aphrodisiac (but also my favourite and most cultural beverage to which i owe a lot to)

It really makes you wonder if the human body is really ready to handle large genital specimens in regards to the amount of blood and inward body production and processing it takes to run it at peak performance. This is a silly scenario, but if human beings got generally larger bodies, and larger penises/genitals as a result but retained the same heart size we would most likely suffer from poor blood distribution especially in old age.

So why would we push ourselves to expand our genitals unnaturally via surgery or cultivating a larger average size index for the pure pursuit of personal preference (not that it doesnt make sense from a evolutionary point) I would put money on that if the average size index rose considerably due to whatever reason, the related number of blood loss and oxygen deprivation accidents and deaths would rise.

And on that note, i notice that my arguement is starting to sound a lot like a south park episode.

 

I am sorry to hear you have 'bad days' @Harvhe!

 

Murphy's Quantum Law affects us all im afraid, heh.

 

This may be a generational thing, but I have never discussed the size of my penis with anyone in real life. There was a time when I was engaged in sex chat, and then, one was expected to give ones dimensions. Yes, I did lie, and I am ashamed of that. Why did I lie? The whole thing was fantasy, to my mind; we were not preparing to meet, only to help each other gain sexual satisfaction. Even if we reconnected, it was never more than a cyber encounter.

As you might infer, my age and physical attributes were not ideal, as measured in the world of cybersex.

But, outside of this, I have never discussed my penis size. Is this a thing men talk about? I've been in locker rooms and showers, so what I had was readily apparent (although I am a "grower"); I've felt inadequate, especially as a teenager, but I don't recall many conversations about each fellow's size.

 

I have a statement about this. This is only based on my own experience and from what I seen with other guys (I'm gay), so don't throw tomatoes at me! x)

Guys who brag a lot about their dick size are usually the guys that have the weakest self-esteem.

These guys compensate their internalized feelings of shame, guilt and unworthiness by bragging about their big penis. In our society, you get validation and you get admiration from others when you're big down there. In their case, most of these guys lacked authentic validation throughout their life, but they learned that they could at least be validated by this part of their body. It became their center of attention. Of course it means nothing, because having a big dick doesn't mean anything about you and doesn't give you any value/credit.

There are two types of guys that feel the need to brag about their penis to overcome rooted feelings of unworthiness.

Overt bragger : that kind of guy will literally tell you that he's big down there. On any occasion, he will directly seize the opportunity to brag about his dick size. That kind of guy is hugely fragile inside. Any invalidation will strongly hurt him, especially if you tell him that you've seen bigger than him.

Covert bragger : this kind of bragger is more subtle. They feel the need to let others know that they are big down there, but they won't tell you directly. Instead of telling you "i'm 8 inches" like the overt bragger would, the covert bragger will tell you "it's sad for guys that don't have big dicks... Must be so hard on their self-esteem...". They are more sneaky... They present themself as humble but they hide a feeling of grandiosity towards their dick.

Then again, it's just an opinion. Someone humble and someone who loves himself doesn't feel the need to brag about anything. Guys that brag about their dick size are often overt or hidden narcissistics.

Before NoFap I was a sex addict. Countless hook-ups. In the gay community, most of the time before hooking up, you would know the size of the other guy's dick. Every single guy that kept bragging about his size before we met was very fragile inside. These guys had very low self-esteem. On the other hand, most guys with big dicks that I met and who didn't brag about their size were usually confident.

Any thought?

 

Nice...This is true.

 

It's not weird either way man... I would love the attention but some won't... Why don't u make a joke about it... Like 'look at ur own' ... So u show u notice it but are trying to deflect it... If he doesn't get it be more direct... But also know... If he is looking at u a lot there is a reason for that man.

 

He is jelly (jealous) lol
No, he could be a fapper who watches too much porn too. Fappers tend to do that. My friend who watches porn a lot, who is gay, does it too!

 

Does that mean that as a fapper who watches too much porn, you did it too @BeachDude1992?

 

haha! Yeah man, I did it too. I'm not gonna lie. I'm not gay but I compare my junk to other junks...I'm like: Hmmm...I wonder what's in there and I wonder if mine is bigger or smaller. LOLOLOL

 

He could be MIRIN',

 

Yeah, me too. Guilty as charged, HAHAHA!

 

Haha! Guilty as charged.

 

Me every time lol

 

My opinion on the topic is that some guys think they have some worth because of their dick size or put a really strong value over the measure. I think that's ridiculous. The act of measuring it and the act of comparing sizes or even talking about it between guys.
I know for a fact that only guys care about the size down there and the size of their buddy's dong. It is something that comes up a lot of times while talking between guys.
I know many sexually mature women from my job and they all don't give a fuck about the size, they don't even know "the number" on the partners they had.
Talking, lying and even mentioning the topic shows lack of self-confidence or a fucked up mind because of porn.
If you are on any end of the spectrum, long or short, and talk about it, you lack confidence in yourself and think that that number is an expression of self-worth, which is not.
For fcks sake, people are getting depressed about that because of the shit they watch in porn. Newsflash: It is not real. Huge dongs are not the norm, they are the exception, those dicks and the actors are cherry-picked and it's the kind of shit you see in porn that convinces yourself that there is something wrong with your body. It is valid with guys and girls too, porn plants stupid doubts about our bodies and how my dick doesn't look like the one on the screen, or that my girl vagoo doesn't look as tidy as the fake crap there is in porn. Take any part of the body, tits, dicks, ass cheeks, arms, six-packs, hair pattern.
We are all unique and come with a different feature pack.
Also, for dick size, there is only one answer: You'll know if you have to use it.
My 2 cents.

 

I cannot recall the last time I encountered let alone took part in a conversation about male or female body parts, for this I am most grateful.

 

Awesome post! Most women don't care about the dick size, that's true.

You said that only guys care about dong size. I want your opinion on something.
Can you imagine how much dick size is important among gay men? Especially with all the influence of porn...

I even got affected by that. I am very sad to admit it, but I do care about dick size. I used to have countless number of hook ups, and I didn't enjoy sex very much with guys that had small dicks. It was nothing compared to guys that had big dongs... Nothing comparable! Some gay guys don't care at all about the size, so I'm assuming that porn fucked up my mind.

I'm 87 days hook up free and 85 days PMO free. I don't know how I would react if my future lover would have a small one. I think I would be okay because without porn, you learn to enjoy sexual pleasure more emotionally and you don't concentrate everything on your genital and your partner's genital. It's sad though... I remember when I was a teen, I didn't give a single fuck about dick size! Freaking porn......

Any thought on that?