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just went on a binge of porn porn porn!

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by dan3dan3, Feb 27, 2014.

  1. dan3dan3

    dan3dan3 Fapstronaut

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    yeap I can't believe it. after two weeks of Nofap, I have binged, and it came out of nowhere.:(

    My girlfriend came round and we had sex, which was the first time I had ejaculated in two weeks. after that wanking didn't seem like such a bad thing anymore. so I done it.... well like 6 times in 15 hours. :eek:

    one of the main reasons I done it was to do with my motivation levels. it sounds strange but when im wanking all the time, yes I waste a lot of time doing it, but the rest of my time i'm really motivated and get stuff done. when I stopped wanking I couldn't feel much motivation for anything. I believe its because after wanking I feel shit about my self, so that in turn kind of motivates me because I want to feel better. I know its fucked up! anyway I have a lot of school work at the moment so I binged partly because i was hoping I can get more work done.

    anyway I've decided I need to learn to deal with this lack of motivation.... anyone got any ideas? I've started my Nofap counter again.... I'm not going to give up..... me and my gf are going to Madrid in 50 days so I'm aiming for that. and this time im not even going to have sex because its just tempts me to Masturbate....
     
  2. Itmry782

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    My experience tells me sex for me is a trigger for MO, with or without porn. Watching "Your Brain on Porn," my understanding is sex can trigger an increase in dopamine (or pleasure) levels, of which the search for an orgasm is one. It's good to hear you are in a relationship, but I imagine that can be a challenge too because of the sex and the consequential increase in dopamine. I'm no expert, but I lost a marriage because I never talked about my addiction with my then-wife, thinking I could manage or overcome the problem. Perhaps you have talked with your girlfriend about your MO, or PMO, which I would applaud you for your courage that I did not have. If you haven't, maybe that's something to consider as difficult as it would be. Just an fyi: my goal is to have no sex for a year because I know it triggers my MO. Which sucks, but it's the price I feel I must pay for not talking with my ex-wife when I had the chance.
     
  3. dan3dan3

    dan3dan3 Fapstronaut

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    thanks Itmry782, yeah for me sex is a massive trigger as well. I've noticed that a lot of Fapstronauts believe sex is healthy in terms of stopping PMO (which it maybe for many people) but I tend to find it just makes me want more.

    I've talked to my girlfriend. But we only been going out a few months so I didn't make out I'm addicted to porn...I just told her I usually masturbate once a day before bed and its not healthy..

    one think I did find from stopping masturbation for two weeks was that the sex was great with my gf and then when I masturbated after... it did feel less of a thrill.

    so I guess there is always some positive ..... the journey to stopping PMO doesn't have to be a straight one....
     
  4. MattNow

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    I think dan3dan3 raised one important thing about motivation. Some time ago I learned that motivation is just bullshit it of course triggers you to do things, but often we are not motivated and still needs to get things done. What comes here is a discipline. I try to discipline myself rather than waiting for motivation to knock my door.
     
  5. mockingjay78

    mockingjay78 Fapstronaut

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    I disagree with Itmry about dopamine.
    The fact that you search new porn pix every day feeds your needs in dopamine.
    But the sexual act with just ONLY ONE girl shouldn't provoke the same release of dopamine.

    I'm an ex-addict of porn, and I have a GF too. I know that porn is now nothing for me. But the first weeks was very hard !
    Dan3Dan3 we are in the same case. If you want more sex after having one with your GF, you must wait for an other occasion with her.
    Think about what is your gain to NoFap each time you almost relapse !
     
  6. Itmry782

    Itmry782 Fapstronaut

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    Sex is a trigger for me. I'm not suggesting it is for everyone. The main point I hope to make is to be aware of what those triggers are, in whatever form they come for each of us.
     
  7. MoonUser

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    The good thing is how aware the OP is. He knows it is a problem and is aware of it. Plus he wants to stop and is coming here for help. All good signs.
     
  8. AnythingIsPossible

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    For motivation I'm seriously thinking of getting a tattoo on my penis saying 'NoFap', if that doesn't stop me nothing will.
     
  9. dan3dan3

    dan3dan3 Fapstronaut

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    I'm willing to make a serious contribution to this tattoo
     
  10. dan3dan3

    dan3dan3 Fapstronaut

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    I agree with you Mattnow, when I'm lacking motivation I think the key is willpower...

    my brain is suffering with no porn and no masturbation... its not used to it... instead it wants me to lie down and do nothing all the time.....

    I know now that next time I just need to have the strength to get up and do stuff, despite a lack of motivation.....hopefully this will kickstart something

    well this is my hope anyway...

    :p
     
  11. DarkATi

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    In my experience, sex triggers a desire for either more sex or PMO the next day. As long as you are aware of this, it can help you fight the urge. If you have sex, prepare to be tempted the next day. However, I find that things quickly reset on the second day after sex. If you can "get over the hump" so to speak, you'll be fine. Just watch out on the days immediately following sex!
     

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