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feeling horny ....cant help it

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by alexs, Feb 27, 2014.

  1. alexs

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    i watched a movie...and there were tits and sex....triggered me..i am close and uncomfortable with this feeling...i know i am going to feel like shit after pmo...so i dont want to do it...
    even when i am trying to sleep...it is difficult....i always slept after a wank...last few days was a bit difficult...but not bad...i can manage it.

    the women in sarees are really sexy ....they always trigger me...when i see the curves of their body...well..u know what i mean..hmmm
    i am going for a smoke....there is this bakery in town where we could smoke sitting inside sipping
    some lemonade..i think that would cool me a bit...:cool:
     
  2. Mark

    Mark Distinguished Fapstronaut

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    Good for you for not giving in to temptation and redirecting your thoughts/energies elsewhere. No matter what we decide to move beyond in life there will always be temptations but it's passing these 'tests' that makes us stronger and we need them. And besides temptation isn't going anywhere, how could it? And thats the 'challenge', to learn and create mechanisms that enable us to move beyond the shit that holds us back whilst forming new, desirable, healthier habits and the more we focus on them the less we feel 'deprived' of what we are 'choosing' to leave behind. Onwards and upwards mate. Keep going!:eek:
     
  3. Wannariseabove

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    Fellow Fapstronaut,

    Man, I'm not trying to sound like a jerk but why would you watch a movie when you know there's a chance you could be triggered and PMO? That's like an alcoholic, who has been sober going into a bar. He's asking to relapse. Be weary of those things. You're gonna do what you wanna do but what helped me was complete abstaining. At this point, I can't even look at a beautiful woman for too long, it will start to trigger me. Until I have this 100% under control, I won't gawk at a woman.

    And according to what you wrote to what your message is titled, yes you can help it; just don't watch those movies or any screen play that even will suggest sex, let alone tits, ass, or sex

    I'm not trying to best you up but to beat this crap, we have to not allow any of it in our lives.

    Good luck, bro

    WRA
     
  4. alexs

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    but i smoked 5 cigrettes today mark....one thing leads to another i suppose
     
  5. alexs

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    we are all social animals mate...and when i see a mature woman 30-35...with good assets...it triggers me..
    besides i only watched a horror movie "lord of illusion"...but there were this guy playing with some hookers..and those tits...:p.......any way i did not give in...i am proud of that...
     
  6. Loren

    Loren Guest

    This is too triggering for people. I am so sorry. I deleted the post.
     
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  7. Wannariseabove

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    Hey man at least you came out without a reset. If you can handle it, then good for you. Keep working at it. We support you

    WRA
     
  8. alexs

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    thanks mate...i will keep going without a reset because of u people and this community where i can share my feelings...
     
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  10. Wannariseabove

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    You're getting your mind right. That's where it all starts. It's where the dopamine is released. Almost hit your goal. Keep it going
     
  11. freedomwarrior

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    Alexs, You can help it, and you did help yourself in a new healthy way and not the old un-healthy way. You are training your brain to make good decisions. Every time you choose a good decision, you are telling the addictive part of the brain to go away, to simmer down, that your decision making part of the brain is in charge and is the alpha male in your head. I am so very proud of you for putting lemonade in your hands instead of a mouse and a penis. You rock. Stay strong.

    Have you been to YBOP and watched the 6 videos about addictions, chaser effects, Coolidge effects, and all that goes with addiction? Go do it. You will learn that you as you make more and more good decisions that the old addictive side fades away until it is not a nuisance anymore. Tough at first, but will get easier as you get better at it.
     
  12. alexs

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    yea ...i think mark or william gave me the link to YBOP...it was really awsome...i never in my life thought
    that pmo was this bad...all my friends told that we should mo atleast once a day to keep urself sexually healthy....therby turning me into an addict of pmo
     
  13. Mark

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    If your not careful yes as substitute addictions are a huge risk when giving anything up so we have to be extra vigilant and focus on replacing unwanted habits with better ones but kicking one thing can be a great opportunity to take up something you always wanted to but could never find the time?

    Why not have a browse through these threads and see if they help in any way (sorry if you've seen them already?) At the very least they will keep you occupied for a little while!:)...

    http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2655-The-Way-of-Harmony

    http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?3549-Action!-or-not!!!-Have-you-actually-Prepared-for-it

    http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthre...d-it-become-a-problem-WHAT-can-we-do-about-it

    http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?2430-I-think-therefore-I-fap-(!!)-Dealing-with-withdrawal
     
  14. freedomwarrior

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    Your brain will tell you that also. Sounds so correct. Sounds so natural. And loving sex, it justifies our desire to orgasm and populate the earth. Trouble is, most of our squirting is nowhere near an egg waiting to be fertilized. Our brain wants pleasure. Goal is not to deprive pleasure, but to give it healthy pleasure, and not too much pleasure that it gets overloaded. Ever see an electrical wire that has had too much electricity pulled through it? It melts. the healthy pleasure we give our brain needs to be non-sexual for a while. Lemonade works well.
     
  15. CheshireCat2323

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    Just remember that the real work you'll be doing with your PMO is being tempted by your thoughts and triggers, then walking away, and doing so over and over and over again,
     
  16. alexs

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    hello mate....
    i just want to talk about ur signature...it is depressing mate...it shows of all the negativity in u...dont take me wrong...u could have some positive signature mate....live each moment mate...dont worry about the past
     

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