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Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by tempohydra, Apr 1, 2022.

  1. tempohydra

    tempohydra New Fapstronaut

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    Hello there, i just registered here and i seek some guidance :)

    Some Info:
    • im a Male of 29 years old.
    • im pretty healthy.
    • i do take some anti-depressants.
    • English is my secondary language.
    • Maybe not relevant but i have Autism.
    I'm not sure yet if im addicted to porn or not, but i watch it pretty much everyday, and mastrubate to it once a day, but porn just doesn't do it for me anymore, sometimes it does sometimes it doesn't

    it gets really boring for me really fast. and sometimes i get a half errection.

    i can finish off on porn, but i can't do it without it.

    i have had sex with a woman 2 times, and both times i was not able to finish and ended up with a softy, but when i watch porn i can mostly get off pretty good.

    when something does make me exited im rock hard, so i doubt there is something wrong with me physically. but real sex didnt make me that exited.

    What i do feel is the urge to mastrubate once a day, so maybe that's where my addiction is? it's not like i mastrubate everywhere where i can. i wait till im home and i can relax.

    but i also don't want to get rid of mastrubation, maybe i should do it less?

    If you Guys/Girls can guide me into the right direction i would be really happy :)

    Sorry if my text is all mixed up or something, im not that good at explaining stuff haha.
     
  2. light&light

    light&light Fapstronaut

    Brother Yes, you are addicted to porn. You do have all the symptoms of porn addiction. So you have to work on that. Coming to this forum is the good first step of the recovery process. Now your next step is to make a plan.
     
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  3. silentmike

    silentmike Fapstronaut

    Since how many years, do you watch P. ? Have you checked whether those anti-depressants are not the cause of your sex problems?

    I think you need to find out what you really are after. P. addiction often escalates, so you need to watch more and more of it to get high, and often you end up with illegal stuff. This also makes it difficult to enter relationship. And to make it last a long time.

    If you need some quick advice, then I can tell you its better to stop watching P. entirely, and do continue to M. while fantasizing about P. But M. only when you really have to. Cutting the connection to P. source (web movies, etc.) is my advice, then the time will tell if you can heal your mind from it, but - as I said - if you really have to M. then do it. If you have watched P. for many many years, lots of it will stay in you head for probably the rest of your life. I still belive I will some day forget it all, but that is a wishfull thinking.

    If you want a real advice on how to break from P. then here it is - stop fantasizing about P. Stop visualizing it. Yes, thats so simple to say. It all starts from you thoughts. Some may say it starts from boredom, or being stressed - then to make yourself happy - you start thinking about P. Maybe its true, but I belive its like with smoking, we - P. addicts - are used to high doses of dopamine, and P. is an easy source of it. You just need to remind yourself your favorite P. scenes, and you have all the dopamine levels high as possible....
     
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  4. tempohydra

    tempohydra New Fapstronaut

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    thanks :) i have been watching porn daily since i was around 16 or 17, so yea around 12 years,

    i already decided to block P on a DNS leven in my network so it will be harder for me to access it.

    i had stopped with my anti depression meds not long ago, and went 6 months without it, and still got the same results, so i dont think the meds are the cause, it only delays it a bit for like 2 minutes or so.

    think its indeed an addiction, i will try to stop watching it now, but easier said than done :) but i will try my best
     
  5. tempohydra

    tempohydra New Fapstronaut

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    Okay so, it's been 1 day now, i pretty much started yesterday, Yesterday i was able to M and O without the use of P.
    today i felt like M again or just Horney. so i did M, i was able to get hard but later i got a soft dick and i was just not in the mood, even thinking about the feelings i was having and scenes in my head didnt work.

    i dont know but maybe it's a good idea to lessen on the M and O also, now i did it everyday, maybe i should aim for 2 times a week now? or atleast when i feel like it, but a maximum of 2 times.
     
  6. tempohydra

    tempohydra New Fapstronaut

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    i have reset my counter, somehow i conviced myself that M to sexy Twitch streams / Bikini streams was fine, because i didnt see the woman all naked. but later i felt horrible because i simply should not M to woman.
    so i reset my counter to 0. i went 4 days without P, im glad i didnt fully return to it. but i see now that Bikini streams could have caused me to go back to the nasty stuff again.

    what have i noticed in my short 4 days off P:
    i started to notice woman alot more (Checking them out)
    i wasn't able to get fully errect anymore (i did with P) but it seems thats because of the dopamine drop. but sometimes out of the blue i get excited :p so stuff is still working down there Gladly :)

    what i also noticed is there sexual desire everywhere you look. ads, internet, tv, on the streets. this can still get me aroused. but i also training my mind to say "Nice and Move on"
     
  7. JoeinUSA

    JoeinUSA Fapstronaut

    Here are some principles for initial discernment/acessment:

    If you cannot go without porn or masturbation for more than 21 days, then you have a major, full addiction.

    If you don't get erections with women to complete the act, then you have PIED - porn-induced erectile dysfunction, which will only get worse (or permanent) in real relationships as you age and not better if you don't seek recovery.

    Do either or both of these clarify for you?
     
  8. open_mind95

    open_mind95 Fapstronaut

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    You have a lot of hard work in front of you. Make the most of this community and obtain regular Inspiration by, e.g. checking out success stories. My suggestion is to get cristal clear about your intentions and reasons to quit. Trust the process. Set goals and celebrate your victories. Never dwell to long on relapses. They are inevitable and part of the journey. Good luck
     
    Last edited: Apr 7, 2022

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