I'm addicted to porn and I need help

You have developed an emotional connection to porn actresses that don’t even know you exist and will never progress your life forward in any meaningful way.

 

But tomorrow is another day, and you can leave the past behind. New habits. New mindset. That’s exciting. At least you know the truth now. You could still be ignorant and repeating the bad habits.

 

Damn, thanks for writing this. I'm only 20, no kids, nor a girlfriend at the moment. But I can feel these vices creeping up in my early adolescent, and would much rather not have to deal with this later on. This put everything I feel in perspective, and it helps knowing others feel this way as well.

 

It’s hard to experience but necessary. We see just how little we have in our lives when PMO is removed from it. We need new habits and real connections.

 

Maybe install parental control (adult blockers) on all your electronic devices, just type a random password and not memorise or write it down you could also have someone else type in a password and keep it.
Porn is just so easy to find if everything is blocked maybe it will be easier not to be tempted.

 

The key is to stop viewing woman as objects and view them as people instead. Only give time to people who value you and want to spent time with you. Stopping porn is only half the battle.

 

I suppose you exchanged one addiction with another (alcohol -> PMO). You should realize that life without PMO means life with lower doses of dopamine, this requires time - you need to start living with it (your brain must learn it), this means sometimes a great pain - when you feel empty and want to feel rush. Even when you stop watching P. it will still be with you in your memories, you will be able to fantasize about it causing the same dopamin rush like in before. Fighting this is even more difficult. Remember, whatever you do - requires a decision - you decide whether to watch/fantasize P. or not. Often decision to not watch/fantasize means pain - to win you must start liking it.

But, there are lots of activities that can bring you doses of dopamin. Maybe less of them, and they will require some effort but they are safe and productive. Anything you acomplish in your life, even a small things brings some doses of dopamine.

 

What if porn is not the problem?

 

Shen

When you said, “I realize, you have snatched my health, my memory, my religion, my career, my character, my skills, my reponsibleness, carefulness, smartness guinessness, my dreams, my sacrifices, my thankfulness and specially 'myself'”. Really felt that, that is so true. Thank you for sharing.

 

The thing with addiction is that it's a temporary healing method for something. So unless you fix the root issue, you will keep resorting back to whatever it is that numbs you.

 

Yes, we’re identified with low states of being and try to elevate ourselves through pmo etc. So, how about starting to identify with higher states, meaning our ideals?

 

This is true, however what if we are not just numbing ourselves but also trying to elevate our level of being so we feel better?