What makes you relapse?

I relapse out of boredom. I work from home and maybe it's a slow work day so I can take a break and that is when i would relapse. Or it's the weekend and I have nothing to do and relapse.

 

- Fear
- Depression

 

Listening to your thoughts

 

I relapse when I act like I'm not addicted, like I don't have problem. When you feel urge just tell someone, try it. Talk about it. Talk about everything that you feel.
I know it depends on the relationship, but even when I start to think about the girls who are around me in a sexual way, I say it to my girlfriend. Say these thoughts aloud and realize that they are only in your mind. I think no one really wants to fap or treat other people as sex objects

 

-when I can't sleep at night
-when I stay too long in a hot room
-when I sleep without clothes

but mainly I relapse because I submit to feeling and give in, I don't think about it until it's already done

 

Lack of emotional control... feeling angry, or irritated, or sad, or trapped in life circumstances. So feeling one of these negative emotions combined with having work off the next day is when most of my relapses happen

 

Anxiety

 

Having no hobby - not that I properly relapse, I gone back to writing fictions mainly from rehashing other people's stories and 'write' stories about celebrities and politicians I want dead

Tried game modding; realising that I will be left unsupported by the community and it's too big as I expected to quit gaming soon, I dumped it

 

- Allowing my mind to wander
- Letting a lewd thoughts stick around too long

And the biggest one: BOREDOM

 

stress and my natural sex drive .

 

This is the interesting part about trying to quit the time blindness to the last time the consequences and the now. You reach a point like 24-48hours and bing bing bing bing ready to go again it's the same with any drug only interested in the next hit

 

Most people in general are addicted to something I just love the benifits nofap brings to the table when I am practicing .

 

When i dont do the things i have to do in the day, like going to the gym, study, cold shower or meditation. When i fail, or i feel in the bottom line. When i start thinking of scenes of porn and i dont cut it. When i lie to myself saying that fapping is only a natural thing or just 1 fap and i start again. All the reasons al bullshit, never fap again.

 

Many here are saying boredom. Here’s a quote from Bob Gardener, “What you’re after when you go into any behavior is more life.”

 

I know this only too well, so here’s a quote from a not-so-well-known teacher, “a mind that is prone to distraction easily succumbs to the whims of the ego and consumes vast quantities of vital and psychological force that is required for development.”
Let’s start working on focusing our minds.