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Social Anxiety Fix?

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by RebootingProtestant, May 2, 2022.

  1. RebootingProtestant

    RebootingProtestant Fapstronaut

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    Hey there guys! So, I've had this problem of social anxiety since I've been a teenager, and right along with that, I've also been pmoing to some pretty weird stuff. I have been trying to quit for about 3 ish years and have seen many benifit youtube videos and some of them include the irradication of social anxiety. The social anxiety has been my main complaint by far, to the point that I even debated for a month or so the possibility of being on the spectrum. While I do not beleive that is the case, I've wanted to come to the community and ask for your opinions and experiences. Does nofap help with/cure social anxiety, or is it all placebo? I just want to be able to be sociable and normal like everyone else, but it seems to be so out of reach. Any feedback is appreciated.
     
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  2. zusya

    zusya Fapstronaut

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    Getting rid of PMO definitely helps with social anxiety.

    For me, when I masturbate or watch porn, it changes the way I look at people. I become more needy and more inclined to try and use people, rather than treat them as dignified human beings in their own right.

    It becomes a lot easier to relate with people when your main interest is to see what you can learn from them. (Not that I'm an expert at that, but when I do manage to see people like that then I have the most meaningful connections with people.)
     
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  3. I feel your pain bro, social anxiety is a bitch. Nofap for sure helps, but it's not going to cure it. For me what helped a lot was just repeated exposure. Recognize that for whatever reason we have this alert system that people can be potentially dangerous, but it's not necessary for the society within which we live. I try to do a lot of positive self-talk. I do feel anxious at times, I don't think it ever fully goes away, but I promise it gets much better. Also not a magic pill, but I always recommend people to lift weights, it's just great for self-confidence.
     
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  4. lol mod corrected *person from bi- tch in case you're confused about the first sentence
     
  5. Harry123d

    Harry123d New Fapstronaut

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    That’s how I feel but unable to put into words
    Thanks alot
     
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  6. zusya

    zusya Fapstronaut

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    Thanks, glad to hear it. I wish you all the best on your journey.
    Godspeed.
     
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  7. hades22

    hades22 Fapstronaut

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    Personally I notice a huge difference in my social life getting off PMO. I find I am able to talk to people casually, maintain eyecontact, not feel like I’m being weird by talking to people. Its very nice. Knowing that you are not dependent on a shitty habit like PMO will definitely give a boost in your social confidence. Trust the process man, we’re all in this together
     
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  8. Mob Barley

    Mob Barley Fapstronaut

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    Along with reducing or completely removing masturbation you should be more assertive in your daily life. If you can put yourself in some type of leadership role this will help tremendously. If you can't be in an official leadership role try to assertive yourself as a leader. For example, you maybe a passenger in someone else's car. If you know where you're going don't allow them to use the GPS tell them "I'll give you directions". Group projects: in the initial stage the roles aren't clearly defined and people aren't sure what to do. In this situation quickly tell what you plan to do and delegate the roles you think the others should do. Leading or even trying to lead will give you more confidence and make you feel better about yourself.
     
  9. As a long term mentally ill sufferer, I can say that the cure is going to be two things;
    a 90 day hard mode reboot
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    going out to be social every day.

    I don't always talk to people when I work much, so I have to make an extra effort, outside of
    my normal routine.

    Anxiety is a controllable problem. If you stay inside and/or spend your time on solitary pursuits, the anxiety builds up. The more you can get outside of your comfort zone, and spend time around people, talking to people, even if they are strangers, the more the anxiety goes down.

    It is a conundrum. To do meaningful work, most people have to do that in solitary conditions. Even if their career ends up being around people a lot, still there is this period where they have to gain skills, like at college.

    But being isolated or solitary builds up social anxiety, nervousness, social phobias, agoraphobia and other problems. It makes you less socially intelligent, less situationally intelligent and less of risk taker in real life.

    For good mental health you need balance, to progress in life and not be totally anxiety-ridden when you leave.

    Just my opinion.
     
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  10. silentmike

    silentmike Fapstronaut

    NoFap is not only about the physical aspect of being free from PMO, the more important is to free you mind from P. When you dont think constantly about P. and then the release which requires MO, then you can think about all the other wonderfull things in your life which can be used to talk about with other people. You will not talk with people about P. - are you? :) So the less you think about P. the more its easy to be less anxious talking to people about every day stuff, you will even find how much you like it and want to do it. There are other problems - like going further, making friends - and maintaining such frienships. It depends on personality, and how long you had social anxiety supported by PMO.
     
  11. Good advice. It's like there is that initial period of suffering in the reboot, up to the first 30 days. And there is a constant urge to use PMO. This urge operates on the psychological level too, telling you that your life is crap, so go ahead and use, since you'll always be a loser. Stuff like that. That voice gets weaker if you persevere, and use discipline. Take it to the full 90 days on hard mode.
     
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  12. florenciomix

    florenciomix New Fapstronaut

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    I don't know if NoFap is the best solution to eliminate social anxiety. I know that some people get rid of anxiety thanks to NoFap, but this is not a very effective solution for me. There are other ways to get rid of anxiety, such as talking to a psychologist. This can help you. And there are other ways that few know about to get rid of any anxiety. I also suffered from anxiety. I was in a pretty serious condition. And when I was looking for solutions to get rid of it, I found the solution to my problem on esaregistration.org. That consisted of a pet that helped me get through that bad period of my life. I would never have thought that an animal would have helped me. So you should analyze several methods.
     
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  13. I noticed a significant correlation between PMO and anxiety/social anxiety. However, I can not be sure if it is a placebo effect or actual due to some internal chemical mechanism.

    Now that I am at 26 days without PMO, I am much less anxious about many things. After PMO, I would be nervous just breathing in my own body. I would be worried that some organ was going to fail or my heartbeat would start beating super fast.

    As far as social anxiety, I feel more comfortable talking to people. I don't feel as strange about interacting with others.

    So I would say that staying away from PMO is a significant benefit in dealing with social anxiety. However, you must not fantasize throughout the day. I think if a person becomes really on edge from an accumulation of sexual tension, that this can actually increase anxiety because you will be messed up in your head
     

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