Angry rant against the rebooting community!

I know it's called Nofap but the most frustrating thing about this community is that there's so little discussion about what to do after you quit porn. Sure, we have a self improvement forum but most of what's there is pretty vague. And then there's the success stories that, in absence of any other information, read like all you have to do is nofap and everything else magically falls into place.

 

I know but they're still generally satisfied with one woman.

 

I am relative new here, but a veteran of personal change. I am mid-40's and I have overcome many bad habits, probably smoking being the most challenging, but I have also completed marathons, paid off a mountain of debt, started (and now operate) a successful business, etc.

On one hand, your point is well-taken that there are no shortcuts to "success," however defined. The kinds of personal accomplishment that you mention ... physical fitness, intellectual development, financial well-being, etc., all come from hard work.

On the other hand, the success in this area of one's life can, in fact, lead to success in other areas. There is a book called, The Power of Habits, that discussed this point in more detail, but the idea is that there are "lynchpin" habits that you can make/break to create a positive domino affect in your life. Case in point ... when I quit smoking, I needed some way to take out my frustrations/anxiety, so I join a gym and beat it out of me with weights. When I was not seeing the results I thought I should be getting at the gym, I improved my diet, eating cleaner/healthier, more lean proteins, etc. I had to get more efficient at the office to make time to workout. I started getting into more activities with my kids, ended up coaching various sports teams. Getting in shape lead me to running, which lead to a half-marathon and then a marathon.

I could go on, but the point is that my success in one area of my life, against one mentally and physically damaging, started a cascade of success in my life, and in some ways, it is the reason I am here. My success has taught me that I possess the power of self-determination, and with a strong personal commitment, the needed resources, and the support of others, I can do anything. And THAT ... is a super power.

Good luck.