Should try to kick 2 addictions at the same time?

From what I understand, I thinking smoking weed can make controlling urges harder. So I would try to stop weed first.

 

I agree with the above, ditch the narcotics first. A lot of the principles for leaving either are interchangeable, so if you can pull lessons from both then you'll be unstoppable. But only a clear mind can create a winnable plan.

 

well, we all have different opinions...but I would say stop PMO now!!!
everything else is less harmful in my humble opinion. I have smoked tons of weed and drank a lot of alcohol, but porn and masturbation are far worse than the other two put together!
stop porn and masturbation immediately and don't ever do it again...everything else will fall into place eventually

 

When I saw your question a little while ago, I didn't find it engaging and dismissed it.

The question didn't seem to pertain to me.

(Please forgive my self-centeredness in that.)

I have not been a marijuana user, and while I do smoke cigarettes and vape, those are not major problems in my life.

Then, as I was going around the house, I began to think seriously about your question and realized how directly it's related to questions I've been asking today.


I'm concerned that I've focused too much on just quitting masturbation and pornography.

That focus seems to neglect other areas in which I have problems and deficiencies.

I've been thinking that I should just live with PMO and concentrate my energies on developing in other vitally important ways.

So long as I am developing in other areas in which I can make real progress, PMO wouldn't then matter as much.

It is a mistake to focus only on quitting PMO, as if that were the only thing.


This, however, may only be a way for me to justify looking and porn and masturbating like crazy.

There's also something even more significant in this, and I will try to explain it as it applies to myself.

All of the areas in which I have deficiencies--PMO, my big mouth, laziness, and everything else--are about one thing: self-control.

The problem isn't pornography and masturbation in and of themselves; the problem isn't so specific and limited.

The problem of PMO isn't really about pornography and masturbation; these are a problem of self-control, which is outside of them and greater.

My problem is that I do not control my impulses, and the urge to look at porn and jerk off is just one of those.

I do not have separate problems from which I can choose a specific one to fix and leave the rest.

I have only one big problem.

Generally, I must develop self-control in all things.

Sexuality is one area in which I absolutely must do that in addition to all the others.

Self-control must be total.

This is a matter of concentrating the mind in everything, every minute of the day.