When I Am Going to be Healed

Do you make judgements and opinions depending on what you feel ?

I have read your posts and was trying to help, im not saying this because i want to feel good or trying to make friends. I just wanted to give you another perspective that helped me.

Also checking on past might help. What is that made you want to escape to porn? Anxiety ? Depression ? Fear?

I was depressed many times when i was younger, in the last few years i found that out and im 34 now. There can be a lot going on in persons subconsciousness that he dont know about. And sometimes you need to dig deeper to understand the root of the problem.

 

time to draw the line..........
take your freedom, hold on tight and never let go
do whatever it takes
get drunk, smoke weed, rob a bank, buy a Harley, jump off a cliff...
but don't wank and don't watch porn! You can do it....we just really need to want this bad enough
make porn recovery the center of your life and allow everything else to revolve around it, adjust everything else to accommodate your porn sobriety...I mean EVERYTHING

 

Do anything and everything it takes not to watch p and m o. Don’t allow yourself to fantasize.

get into the world. Work toward your goals. Staying away from pmo being one of them.

within 2 months of successful rebooting and staying away from arousal you will began to feel your life become absolutely amazing.

just hold on.

 

I can’t say for sure, but I expect people that suffer with severe depression and/or anxiety after more than a year probably have some other underlying physical or mental health issues. I realize that my PMO habit is deeply tied to childhood pain, and for some it might be severe unhealed trauma coupled with additional mental health problems. I was so scared of having real relationships with people that I would be emotionally/sexually connected to the pixels, which were sometimes real girls I never met but knew online for years and sometimes just p actresses. The point is that PMO is a symptom of deeper problems that must also be addressed

 

Hey man try the lefkoe method it really helped me a lot with my negative thinking. I was in the exact same situation as you and it was night and day after the course. You can literally do it in a day and it teaches you how to redirect your thoughts.

Everything you feel in life is directly related to the meaning you are putting to the experience. That is why some people can feel depressed on a rainy day because they are stuck inside but others can be the happiest people in the world, that would be the farmer that needed water for their crops. Same exact rainy day but people are feeling totally different emotions from the same reality.

Reality doesn't make you feel its what you interpret the meaning of the situation to be that is what makes you feel different emotions. Try it out man it really helped me a lot.

They also teach you how to change the past traumas in your memory by going back and literally changing the outcome in your mind. Once you do that it is no longer a traumatic experience. The thing that made it stressful was what you were feeling or thinking during the experience. Once you go back and change the way you felt about it, the situation can no longer bother you since you now changed your beliefs about it.

 

I like this analogy and it's all spot on for me. Nothing can be isolated like they do in conventional medicine; no, we are holistic beings, everything is connected in some way, and for me, I can say that the porn problem has been a symptom of early childhood problems and a coping mechanism to deal with general anxiety. But, like so many things in life, the "relief" only lasts for a short time, and the longer I was steeped in porn fantasy, the more out of touch with reality I became. If I am truly receptive to life, I will live in the here and now.
People feed off each other's emotions and porn kills emotional expression, we become porn zombies. Life is about connection, union with all life, in whatever way that's possible, but this constant need for semen ejaculation is not natural, it's conditioned and it's destructive and it's pathetic!
So, yes, I have been pathetic, and I have to accept that I have been a porn addict most of my life, it's part of my past identity...however, I now choose to suffer with fortitude and humility, porn free!

 

Sorry for your loss brother