30 days, great fun from socializing

Wallfacer · May 30, 2022

Hi! Just wanna list down some benefits I get from roughly 30 days of no PMO( only one time accidental nudity seeing, but i cut it off rather quickly)

Its been very fun and easy talking to girls. The fundamental difference that 30 days made is that I would now approach complete strangers and have a nice conversation with them.

I can also feel the energy building up- as in this potent desire to do something great, both in terms of my goals and in terms of relationship. I now am just eager to go to gym and get in shape, and because i consciously chose delayed gratification whenever I reject a quick release from PMO, i am able to embrace long-term plans and conquer many things with great confidences. Now I have the attitude of "anything being achievable, given that I throw myself at it". And it is a fundamental belief rather than a slogan. I would command myself to implement a feature in my project in a weekend, and I would actually do it. I am still not 100% effective, but I am getting better at it. Furthermore, I have an intrinsic motivation to learn mathematic, physics, and anything that interests me. Learning is extremely fun and rewarding nowadays and are more fun than games, which now, despite sometimes being relaxing, are mostly draining because I know they don't contribute to my understanding of the universe by much.

I've become close with many of my female friends, and I enjoy making them laugh and talking to them. I think its important to be off-porn because you stop seeing women in a weird way and you can actually start talking with them like friends.

It is always 100x better and more enjoyable to be interacting with real girls than to be seeing NSFW pixels on a screen doing some staged act for thousands of customers. Whats more is that getting a girlfriend takes requires one to improve themselve, pushing themselves out of comfort zone, hitting the gym, becoming more effective and productive, and it just makes one generally more motivated, where as porn offers no such motivation since it is just an easy shortcut without much meaning or purpose to it and requires no effort. quitting porn gives you that testosterone and masculine drive to fight for stuffs u truly wanted.

One great motivation I used is reminding myself that it is 100x harder to improve myself than to count days, combined with Kennedy's quote "we chose to send a man on the moon not because it is easy but because it is hard"

specofconsciousness · May 31, 2022

Wow! Thanks for this.
I'm having an existential crisis right now having just lost my 33-day streak. I probably shouldn't say "lost", but something did go wrong in there. I've been battling this thing for over two years, at the beginning of the streak I wrote a document of my story, my problems, and the way I'm going to achieve it this time. Well, having lost this I'm starting to question it all. It seems worthless. I can't seem to find balance in my life, at the start I felt I was doing too little, but now I feel as if I'm doing too much. I am really worried since my girlfriend hasn't heard about my addiction for a long time. I decided not to tell her and set myself a concrete base, bc our relationship was on a bumpy road that time. Hell, I kinda feel it's rolling on back there. I don't feel at peace, at happiness.

Aquiantedwithsorrow · May 31, 2022

We all stumble on the journey. Keep going Bro.

The worst thing about P is the more we expose ourselves to it and the more desensitized we become to it, the more we sear our own conscious with a hot iron and loose that innocent childlike part of ourselves.

I started just looking a P magazines and over time it become a full blown obsession and I became very perverted and promiscuous and my conscience become seared and perverted, and I lost my moral compass and turned into a monster and caused alot of damage to myself and others.

I would recommend to anyone to minimise exposure to P because it shows no mercy.

specofconsciousness · May 31, 2022

Thanks, man!

The first thing I'm going to do is to have the most thorough talk with my girlfriend. Just has to happen. And the overthinking perfectionist in me has to go. My energy goes to finding balance, which means making small compromises, but in the meantime making small efforts for the better. I will not go full-on berserk with all types of new habits. I will not let myself fall into the hole (in the first place) where PMO seems like the only drug that would keep me alive at that very moment.

I wish you all the luck!

Aquiantedwithsorrow · May 31, 2022

Yeah man,

Tread lightly when exposing this kind of stuff to a female Bro

Women take things differently than us, and some if not all see it as betrayal.

when alot of the times for us males we want love and acceptance from our girlfriend or spouse it can backfire on us. Not saying to keep secrets from your girlfriend but try to use wisdom. Just my advice take it or leave it.

I had it happen to me. I've opened up in a relationship before and it actually backfired on me. I guess you have to know if she is trustworthy and won't use it against you as a weapon of shame and de-humanise you.

Just speaking from personal experience.

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