Unexpected Date

Well, it's an awful thing to underperform in bed.

If you are certain you can't perform just don't risk it. The only thing could be you telling her you are doing some self improvement and for the time being you are remaining abstinent for some months.

If she agrees then it's a good sign, also it gives you time to know her without sex clouding your thinking.

I'll keep the porn addiction out of the conversation. It's just creepy.

Also try to do some foreplay like kissing and touching and maybe if you get an erection you can perform. Try to do that before giving a all speech to her.

You are suppose to be a relaxation to her not another problem in her life with you addiction problems.

 

Hmm tough one, just tell her you had some issues that have nothing to do with her personaly and dont get into detail with it but add this time is not the right time maybe later. If she is understanding she is a keeper if not run

 

doubts about the own performance are no good requirements to have sex. In this case i would stick on NoFap. Give your brain some time to heal. You will acknowledge if you are ready, give it a try then. Until then i would intentionally embrace friendzone. Just try to chil with her, talk to her, have fun doing activity together. intimacy and sex may develop from this startin point.

 

hi, man, try nofap until the day maybe you go to bed.. why you can't perform exactly? That's always a doubt for eveyone more usual than you can think. Sure she/he has the same anxiety as you do, even if it seems otherwise, usually it's a suggestion...
What I would do it's to NoFap, enjoy the moment, dont care about my mind talking, just let him/her express. Second, if you are strong enough, propose yourself to have sex with seminal retention (by the way, dont talk about this and porn ad. yet). When your real purpose is seminal retention, sex is going to be a means to reach something higher, whatever it is. And you will focus on kisses, caresses, smells, soft penetration, sex with greater textures. I hope you bear it. I assure you that she will enjoy it.
Finally, AGAIN dont fap before (and after) this date. This was unexpected because the magic of nofap is working, and if you fap you will instantly lose it. Read about it in this forum, there are a lot of experiencies, and even I have written some of them.
Hope this helps.