Escorts...Dutch and Other Open Minded People Please Respond

Yeah yeah,you feel good for a few seconds, then regret hits and you feel sad. not much different from masturbation....stay away

 

Escorts are not a good idea. This is not about money or stds. Its more about the shame of doing the act. Even if it feels good that will last for a few minutes. Then shame and depression will follow. Afterwards the next time will get worse and you feel so empty like death. Nothing can make you feel filled with life.

This is personal experience plus reading up on sex addiction.

Trust me dont do it. Wait for love and put yourself out there into the world.

 

No don't do it. Your virginity is something that is actually quite precious so don't waste it. Also, making the wrong decision here could ruin your life.

There is nothing to be ashamed of if you are a virgin. I don't think that women normally ask guys if they are virgins. So if it doesn't come up in conversation, then don't mention it until after you have sex, ideally with a girlfriend that you are dating. When the topic does eventually come up, just let her know that you were waiting for the right person and that you were also focusing on other areas of your life.

Also, your lack of sexual experience shouldn't be a problem your first time, as long as you are good to go. So stay far away from PMO or MO. If you are clean for 90 days you should be good

 

Yeah do it. Try to do it more like a meditation not so much for pleasure. And practice non ejaculatory sex. That way you won't feel any postorgasm sickness or regrets.

Also it greatly depends on your state of mind while doing it. If you go and have sex with an escort with moralistic ideas, feeling sorry for the girl then the experience will be more traumatizing than liberating. Which can be. It's an special moment.

Treat the girl with respect and much gratitude but also go prepare to make her have a good time. Read about non ejaculatory sex.

If you can, go to a brothel so you can sense in person the energy of the girl and if you are compatible. Try not to be so overwhelm by seeing so many girls at the same time.

One tip will be to see each girl and the 9ne you like you stick it in your head and if another one you like. More then you erase this girl and put the new one. In your head.

Also talk before sex, what she like ñs to do, can you kiss her, oral sex? That way also you see her attitude and if you are compatible if you notice she is kind of dry then pick another one.

Also check scort forums on your city and review of escorts that way you can pick her up too.

Choosing the right escort is essential in having a great experience

A book about non ejaculatory sex is the Tao of health, sex and longevity by Daniel reids

 

Here I talk about non ejaculatory sex

https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?t...plain-all-my-secrets-and-methods-here.311825/

 

Yup just do it. It'll change you deeply just respect the girl and have a good time.
Well sex is about gaining energy too, ejaculation MO or sex drains your energy so better not to ever ejaculate.

And it's way easier if you start having sex and doing it that way, read the book the sex part and some of my threads to get an idea

 

Here in Sweden, buying sex is considered to be one of the absolutely most shameful things a man can do.

Being someone who has paid for sex is way more shameful than just being a late in life virgin. Now with the pandemic, many people have been deprived of sex for about 2 years.

My avatar is a photo I took while being in Zoetermeer in the Netherlands btw. I love the Netherlands, but, I don't think it's good for men to buy sex.

 

Well, I think using prostitutes would just make things a lot worse for you. And it's not good for the prostitutes either, they should be doing something more worthwhile.

I know that a lot of people, especially women, think it's very shameful for men to use prostitutes. Beyond that, I'm not a dating expert by any stretch, so I can't give you that much dating advice. I just know some things you shouldn't do.

 

That is correct, they really won't be able to tell that you're a virgin unless you tell them. I know someone who was in the same situation as yourself, and he went on NoFap, got a girlfriend and is now in a serious relationship and they have regular sex; she didn't care that he was inexperienced.

If you want to get experience having sex so that you are good in bed, you need to get a steady girlfriend. If you have a girlfriend, you could easily have sex 300 times in a year...that's how you become really good. Also you will be way happier with a girlfriend and who knows maybe you'll live happily ever after.

But if you go to a prostitute, that is essentially a major escalation to your porn addiction and will likely not lead to good outcomes in your life.

 

My two cents: it sounds like you want experience, but an experience with a person who’s entire job is to make you feel good is going to be, at very best, tainted with doubt. You’re not going to actually learn anything about intimacy, so… why?

Be patient. You’ve waited this long, it’s not going to hurt anything to wait longer. When you get a girlfriend, be honest about where you’re at. If you are with a person who genuinely cares about you, and isn’t there for your money or your body but is really there for you, and of course if you’re there for her, it will be a far more rewarding experience and definitely worth waiting for.

A lot of guys think women want a technically proficient bed partner and sure, I’m certain there are some out there like that. On the whole, however, this is a lie porn taught us. Most, virtually all, women want connection. When you have connection, and patience with yourself and one another, technical work naturally follows.

 

And take your money. And tell you how wonderful it was for them so they have a repeat customer.