What's wrong with me

Look man, there is a lot of suffering in new loneliness. If you are going to suffer, wouldn't it make sense to make it count? Start a hard mode 90 day reboot, and it will level up your life.

Because if you are lonely or heartbroken and you chase the ex, or some other girl, then it's probably going to fail right now.

So I'll tell you the same old thing you hear in every movie:

it's time to work on yourself.

The reboot is your key.

 

The first step is taking care of yourself. When the world is over and you're at the end of the line, who is going to be there? You, and only you. Build yourself, become who you know you can be. Find that gem inside and polish it up, we are all here with you and know you can be awesome.

 

I'm misty-eyed at the inspirational speech!

 

Take those words and remember them well. You can do this, we can help. Bolster others and be there for when help is needed.

 

I know how you feel, the same thing happened to me. I dumped my girlfriend and when someone told me that she had a new boyfriend it hurt me so much. Afterwards I figured two things: First that in a monogamous relationship a big part of the security it gives both the partners comes from the sense of possessing the other person. That's why we say that we HAVE a girlfriend or boyfriend. Second thing is that now someone else HAS her. And that's not hurting because you still have feelings for her, but because you don't have a new girlfriend. You are still single and longing for love while your ex and her new partner now have the best time. So you think. But that's not true. There are reasons why she is your EX. There are very, very good reasons why you broke up. And what ever went wrong with the both of you or what kind of behaviour of her drove you crazy - she still ist that person and you definitely don't want to be back together with her. You don't want to HAVE her again. Because she still carries the same problems and disputable behaviours around with her. Remember that. And as others have written: You also have your pile of problems (everyone has!) and now while being single it is the best time to work on that. We all know that evolving also means suffering sometimes. But it's big fun "growing inside" and totally worth the effort.