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Why Losing Your Virginity to A Hooker is Bad

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by BlindSisyphus, Jul 10, 2022.

  1. BlindSisyphus

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    A while ago I posted a thread on this forum asking for people to convince me not to go get a hooker to lose my virginity. Many reasons were cited: mostly the she of the act and so forth. What was not mentioned originally, and this is most important, is that you will want to do it again. You will become very horny and need to do it again.

    Now my dick wants to fuck everything that moves and my brain wants a steady girlfriend. What do I do? I don't want to end up hitched to the first girl that comes along. I used to be able to pick up women and I used to be able to just masturbate. What the hell?!

    You guys all suck.
     
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  2. Giuseppe

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    The #4 post in your thread warned you about this when that poster mentioned sex addiction as a result of using escorts.

    You could try setting some standards/principles to live by, which would require you to practice self-control and responsibility. Maybe no sex before marriage could be an option?
     
  3. BlindSisyphus

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    Too late for that now.
     
  4. Giuseppe

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    Not really. What is stopping you from living by those principles? Just because you had sex with an escort doesn't mean you can't, from this moment on, choose to wait until marriage to have sex. Sure, you have made it harder on yourself by visiting an escort, but it's not impossible.
     
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  5. mrpractical

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    So you lost virginity currently? Write
    me please privately here as message.
     
  6. Legacy of Lost Soul

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    Sex after marriage is even bigger BS than marriage alone
     
  7. Giuseppe

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    Wow, so profound.
     
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  8. Aquiantedwithsorrow

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    I sense your going to learn things the hard way.
     
  9. Wolf7

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    You stood at the edge of a cliff waiting for the wind to blow you over when people told you not to. Why ask for advice again lol? You’re an adult right? We’re all men here, control yourself. You don’t need to have sex every day, grow your willpower
     
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  10. In my experience in marriage it is not. There is no lack thereof. Marriage is the best deal I did. Plus just throwing this out, statistically married couples end up with more sex than single which only makes sense. Someone told me that I haven’t bothered to verify it.
     
  11. Wolf7

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    A lot of the married couples also end up divorced due to lack of sex. They end of having kids ajd then the women often times doesn’t want to have as much sex which leads men to cheating and a bunch of other harmful things in the relationship. Marriage in this day and age is a trap
     
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  12. Escorts are not good because of sexually transmitted infections. Condoms can break or don't cover all infected area.

    Also in the thread, you seemed to have refused advice from "religious nut jobs." It's not really wise to be selective on advice. I am a Christian virgin myself, and I know many reasons why prostitution is dangerous.

    Unfortunately I don't think I was around when you made that first thread in the Problematic Sexual Behavior forum.

    But even if I was around, I usually respond to posts that actually reflect a serious problem like masturbating in public, frequenting prostitutes, or financial abuse stemming from sex addiction. Being indecisive about having sex with a prostitute is not really a problem for this subforum, in my opinion. It seems like a mental struggle that hasn't yet manifested into a behavior, and so I don't see it as a problematic sexual behavior. However, if you are frequenting prostitutes, then that is definitely an issue that I can try to help you with.
     
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  13. Long Range

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    People took the time to try and warn you and to give you good advice in the two threads you made on the topic... but you ignored them, you have no one to blame but yourself.
     
  14. IR254

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    You asked and you got answers. If that is your reaction to a stupid ass decision of yours, then go fuck yourself. For real.
     
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  15. Giuseppe

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    Divorcing someone over a lack of sex just shows that either one or both individuals went into marriage prematurely or under a false pretense. Marriage isn't a trap. It's an institution which purpose is to cherish love by a communion of personhood and, if possible, family. Clearly, this institution will be considered a "trap" for those who do not understand its purpose or live it.
     
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  16. Wolf7

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    it’s not false pretense or necessarily a premature evolution of the relationship. Sex is one of the most important and bonding parts of any healthy relationship and those who choose to ignore that or act as if it’s wrong to want a natural thing such as that with your partner are in denial. This is very different from sex addiction or problematic sexual disorders, sex plays a huge role in a relationship. Marriage is a social construct based on finance and in a way “owning” of a person and laying claim to them. I’ve know peolle that are against marriage be together for over 50 years and they say they are the happiest that they could be. It’s only a construct, it plays no real role in a relationship
     
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  17. Giuseppe

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    No one is saying that sexual intercourse isn't important within marriage. Saying it's one of the MOST important things is elevating it to a level of idolatry, and when individuals do that, then it will always end in frustration where one person blames the other for not living up to standards they could have never achieved to begin with. You claim marriage is a social construct based on finance. I say marriage is an institution given by God as a vocation of love and, if possible, the propagation of children. Hence, the vows that publicly state the union will not be dissolved by things such as money or lack thereof. Furthermore, I would consider the couple that has been together for 50 years as being married, and where I come from, they would be considered by the state as a common law marriage.

    Even if the majority of us were plunged into a state of complete slavery, with no money to our name, there would still be marriages happening. Why? Because marriage is about love.
     
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  18. Wolf7

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    Marriage is a construct that’s why there are court proceeding in place when you get married and prenuptial agreements, and why divorcing someone isn’t simple as divorcing them because two people agreed upon it, it’s something that costs money. That’s the term I’m speaking on. Again, yes it is one of the most important parts of any healthy relationship. Look at any relationship where there is a prolonged lack of sec for any reason. You will see that a lot of the infidelity, affairs, and turmoil is a result of lack of sex from either parties. Not even sex alone, but the sexual energy that may be lacking in a weak man who plays with himself all the time, many women will lose attraction and respect for a man with no sexual life force and the same can be said vice versa
     
  19. Giuseppe

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    These things are not part of all marriages and the absence of these things will not end marriages. What you list here are ways in which governments recognize marriages, but they aren't the foundation of marriage.

    Again, no, it is not the MOST important thing within marriage. What if the person you love is in a car accidnet and paralyzed? You're going to divorce them because they can no longer meet your sexual "needs"? If not then clearly sex isn't the MOST important thing within a marriage. If you say yes, then that probably has to be one of the shallowest outlooks on marriages I have heard in a long, long time.
     
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  20. Wolf7

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    I never said it was the “MOST” important, read my message. And for the above post, that is what qualifies a marriage as a marriage. Love doesn’t need a title, love is pure energy. You don’t need a court document to express love fully to your core and feel a piece of god in every moment of it.
     
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