near relapse strategies

Shut off your computer, lock it away and go take a nap. When you get up have your uncle or someone cool put a passcode on it so you can’t get on the internet anymore without someone there to let you in

 

Sounds like you were experiencing something like withdrawal symptoms.
One fellow fapstronaut recently posted something that fits very well here: "Don't be afraid of the withdrawals, they are your brain's way of telling you you are not feeding it what it by now considers its normal; a constant daily high."
Working out is indeed the right way of coping with that. But when you are unable to sleep, try to work out until you are literally tired.

 

That is not near a relapse, it is a relapse.

 

I don’t let any urges in to my mind whatsoever. I am aware of triggers and when they appear I observe them but quickly change my train of thought.

The thought is the very first step of relapse. If you don’t flow with it you won’t go on to the internet and search out something to m over. It really is that simple, but it takes some failures along the way to master it.

be aware of all your triggers as they happen and try with all your will to change your thought to something different. You will fail, but each time learn from that failure. You will feel like shit every time you fail but as long as you can see that you have progressed from the last failure in some way, then you will be progressively moving in the right direction. An example of moving in the right direction is noting the time of your streaks, if they are getting longer after each relapse then you are improving. Eventually quitting porn will seem easy.

I can’t view anything porn related, so I deleted anything I could, deleted even instagram and made a conscious decision that I would not view anything ever again. The act of changing my thought when a trigger occurs 99.9% of the time will work in preventing you from viewing porn and then acting out.

I’ve been addicted since I was a kid and I’m now in my forties, it was the only thing that has worked for me so far

 

@lfcmatty

Is your counter accurate?

 

I have an app on my phone specifically for NoFap. It even shows me it in graph form which is good as previously it was just a flat line, now it is moving upwards due to all the long streaks

 

So you're not 500 days clean, but somewhere else in your journey? I just ask because it's rare to see people who have been free for a long time posting here, and when I see them I feel a lot more weight from their advice. Your thoughts seem solid to me, and it's stuff I've tried and am still trying, it's just sometimes, with my lack of success, I feel like maybe I am just chasing a red herring's as far as the things I am trying in recovery.

 

No I’m very low on days. I know what I have said makes me appear as though I have mastered pmo, but really all that has actually happened is that for the first time in my life I’ve been moving forward. Each failure has resulted in a longer streak each time. This really is HUGE for me. Put it this way, I can’t ever remember going more than a whole day with out messing around down there, and I’m 44 now, my earliest memory of this first occurring I was perhaps 6.

I feel like something has clicked this time, after all the daily failures something has definitely changed.

I need to start a thread of my own instead of hijacking others so maybe I’ll do that, I’ll document failures because let’s face it, this addiction is good at sneaking up on you when you least expect it, I’m not being too confident due to my past but something has definitely changed.

 

I once also tried quitting pmo while still just watching p without touching myself. This wasn't a solution for me. My p-induced fetishes were just fed again. It's right that your brain is amplifying these reward circuits even more when orgasming to p. However you really need to teach your brain to produce sufficient amounts of dopamine for normal everyday things. This only works by avoiding p completely. I am on a 60+ day streak and last time I made a pizza by myself, I was truly hyped, happy and so exited for eating it. I felt like a happy boy again.
This only works when avoiding the dopamine wave that p gives your brain.
Remember p is like a "phenomenal reproduction event" -simulation that you can easily start by just a few mouse clicks.
Of course it's not healthy for your brain to experience something like this every day/every week.

 

This Strategy could work for while but it will fuels neural pathways of PMO addiction even if you do not masturbate or experience orgasm. if you watch P eventually Dopamine level will rise and down regulation of dopamine Receptors Occur.