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Can't stop thinking about guys, but I'm not gay

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by PMO addict, Jun 1, 2018.

  1. iwontfail67

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    Definitely the porn with this one. I know this thread is dead in the water but for anyone going through this, its the porn. No debate about it. Think about it. Being a gay bottom who acts like the people being degraded in porn videos is literally the most extreme and self-degrading thing that a straight person could ever do to themselves. And the ones who have done it tend to always regret it, and have it haunt them for life. Don't reinforce your low self esteem and don't allow porn to somehow eroticise your low self esteem where you end up forcing yourself to think about the most extreme things in the world, just so your brain can get an extreme shocking fix. None of this has anything to do with being gay, because you never were to begin with. It all goes away once you quit porn, but you have to be vigilant and strict.
     
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  2. Its so true! Nothing wrong with being gay if you are actually. But if you identify with only being attracted to women by default and it really is the porn messing up your thoughts if you start thinking about being with men but still feel off about it.
     
  3. Freedom_from_PMO

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    This.

    I have the same problem as OP, but I never find a guy attractive IRL. My same sex fantasies are all about porn.
     
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  4. Venkat19

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    Just let it be! Why bother? All will be clear in good time. Just carry on with your life's non-sexual components. Balance is the essence of life. Don't overthink this matter.
     
  5. BigBob73

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    When I had those thoughts, which included a Grindr profile and seriously considering hooking up, it was all down to regular porn not giving me my regular dopamine release. When I quit porn those same urges became stronger. I wondered if perhaps i was gay at times, but honestly I was only attracted to the sex and the orgasm. I've never looked at a guy and wanted to kiss him.....never. but the thought of giving a bj was erotic and exciting. Very odd, but I can tell you that once I broke away from my porn addiction the idea of being with men became laughable......ridiculous. it is possible you could be having the same issues, or perhaps you are interested in men, and if you are that's absolutely fine. Good luck my friend.
     
  6. It's actually not the porn alone that makes you want that gay experience. It's the taboo of your sexual curiosity that started out and then the imagery of gay porn fed into desiring it and confusing us to think we are bi.
    I assure you we aren't. The proof behind finding out if you really are is to ask youself these questions.
    * Do you want a romantic partner of the same sex?
    * Have you ever wanted to date or ever had a crush on a same sex person?

    If you answered no, you aren't bi or gay. Theres nothing wrong with being one, but only you know for sure.
     
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  7. Hearts

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    Hmm I personally bieve tgat any type of pirn is detrimental but if someone is attracted to the same sex it's not a 'choicr' it's sho they are
    If your cl.ing from a religiys6point of view I can't imagine God being against something that is an expression of love
     
  8. lfcmatty

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    I watched something a while back where they explained how p can make you gay. Well certain aspects of it, maybe not full blown gay.
    I really wish I could remember what was said in detail, it was something to do with your eyes constantly seeing a male in the videos orgasm. Your brain starts to associate a penis as attractive as it is always there in the videos. If you o around the same time as the guy in the videos your brain is going to associate everything in that moment as something good because you o to it. I guess if something perfectly normal was in the background to every single vid that you watched, say a particular shaped lamp, then every time you walked past a lamp like that in every day life you are likely to find your penis becoming hard but you wouldn’t understand it it as it will be subconscious. It’s all association with o that has previously occurred many times.
    I too have this problem, I find the idea of anal sex a big turn on and men cumming a big turn despite having no attraction whatsoever to males. There may be many other things combined that cause this but porn appears to be what has caused it with me as these thoughts never used to exist.
    I have even gone as far as meeting someone (but nothing happened in the end), and as soon as I turned up at this guys house I wanted to run, but I kept going despite what my brain was telling me. As mentioned nothing happened (no penetration) but we tried still, even that has haunted me ever since.
    It is so easy to meet men for gay sex, I could literally be at it with a guy within half an hour if I wanted to.
    This is just my opinion based on my experience by the way, your issue may not match mine
     
  9. lfcmatty

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    One of the most dangerous types of porn vids you could watch are cumshot compilations. If you search out these vids you are already half way there with regard to your brain finding parts of male sex attractive (in my opinion).
     
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  10. TheGerman

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    Hey bro, I see it the same way you do! For example, I am addicted to this genre and nothing excites me like cum shot movies. Which also makes me think of being gay. I am not interested in anything else about a man and I have never been in love with one, but unfortunately it has taken on pathological forms...or ocd. I mean where you were referring to above, I also read that on yourbrainporn. That your primate brain can't differentiate between porn and what suits my actual orientation and what doesn't. You see sex and you are aroused. Your primate brain, after a long period of porn consumption, simply doesn't make any difference anymore. Hope what I wrote is understandable. Let Google translate my texts. Greetings from Germany
     
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  11. lfcmatty

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    ‘The german’, yes cumshot genre is something I am/was addicted to as well. Low and behold when I started viewing them regularly was when the idea of meeting men reared it’s head.
     
  12. DevilMayFry

    DevilMayFry Fapstronaut

    It's good this is being brought up a lot. It's important for others to understand this is a symptom of porn and not true orientation.
     
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  13. lfcmatty

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    100% yes.
     

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