The Lord of the Rings Challenge

21 days
Now alone at work early in the morning, urges coming out of nowhere.

 

50 (18 hard mode) days complete

I think the period of high urges is passed, but after this period I now have phantasies remaining. They intensified a lot lately, they are similar to what I had before I even joined noFap, maybe not the frequency, but the content. So I am still keeping to my avoiding strategies

 

I don't think that there is any one who could clearly tell you the boundaries between lust and attraction. But what you describe seems more like normal attraction than lust, unless when holding hands you indulge in sexual phantasies. That's why if you want to keep sex after marriage you have to be careful about physical contact. But after you get married, holding hands should become much less arousing. But for me hugs are still arousing

 

Day 13 - Hobbit, The Ford of Bruinen

 

Day 3 - Hobbit

 

49 days

I'm procrastinating a lot, spending too much time checking emails also spent some time scrolling through the social networks.
It's not the way I want to spend my time, it's not productive and it's not even help me in any way.

I'm trying to do dopamine detox, will try to recover today.
Also when I'm not entertaining myself with artificial dopamine I usually feel much better.

Today I will spend time learning and working and in the evening I will go for a walk, that's it, I will not spend time watching youtube
or scrolling through the social networks.

 

Day 12 no PMO. I’m back on my normal schedule today.

 

My pleasure friend!

Thank you brother and very well added!

Yes that is precisely it. I notice as well, when I am not doing something or for example right now, dealing with some dizzy spells that force me not to do anything, I have no choice but to face the urge and the pull.

It's like you said, this is what makes us stronger. Learning to breath with the temptation, the discomfort, the anger, the sadness etc, learning to let all that pass like a cloud without judgement.

I also think honing our why, will serve us well in periods of great discomfort.

Autopilot takes over as a result of not noticing the initial trigger, whether that be an emotional distress, physical discomfort or even simply boredom. Or even, the emotion distress feeling too overpowering to face. This is why study and practice is key, consistently throughout the journey. If complacency takes over (as it had with me, tag that with a very powerful emotional distress), leads to a recipe for relapse/autopilot.

It is like you mentioned, rather instead of a coping strategy, I just prefer to say honing a new path to dealing with the immediate challenges. Choosing to live in the real world, as opposed to choosing an escape(whatever that may be)

As you said, with time this becomes less difficult but practice must be maintained.

@Paul S. and @RiseToGreatness great discussion brothers, I enjoyed it!

I'm glad you found it helpful brother!

 

Thank you for sharing this brother, I watched it over the course of a few days. Quite informative! Last 20 mins or so is a repeat of the beginning, uploader probably didn't edit things properly.

 

Checking in Fellowship Friends!

17 Days Free of PMO.

Got hit with quite a few dizzy spells yesterday, I think I know what the culprit is(unrelated to PMO). As with any intense discomfort, I was craving PMO. Flashbacks and desire to edge. It becomes quite a task, at first, to unmask the lie for what it is.

I plan to rest today and target the culprit, it will take a few days if I am right. I certainly hope I am.

Stay Strong!

@SSS Vision Congrats on making it Rivendell fellow Elf!

 

240

 

Current streak: 1000+ days no PMO
240 days semen retention

Meditation
I've been having very revealing understandings these couple of days. No sexual tension, fatigue or anything, everything is good.

I read the road is the goal a book by Chogyam Trungpa in which he states that basically all you need to do to have a healthy mind is meditation. That is all the book says.

This made a click in me I realiced I never been pursuing women compulsively, indulging myself in porn, onanism when I've been meditating consistently.

It's not the point of meditation to quit addiction or a form of therapy. It's more like resting or discovering your true mind what is behind thoughts feelings and emotions, your real self.

I meditate simply focusing on my breath.

Conclusion: give daily meditation a try if it's your thing.

 

Here I explain a bit more the meditation I practice if you are interested. It's the first one the Dan tien meditation

https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/478-days-meditations-to-balance-sexual-energy.316000/

 

2 days
stressful day yestarday but finished great. Low urges but with brain fog, I hope that the fog vanishs quickly. Tomorrow I will return to the exercise, I completed the tasks that I need so I have more time now.

Today I didn't worked out but I took a cold shower at least.
Keep strong my brothers.

 

Day 16 check in. Days PMO-free in 2022: 202 out of 210.
Wrapped in my elven cloak and journeying forward.

@Redemptionisrequired thanks brother, it's good to be an elf again!