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What made you realize that you had to quit porn immediately?

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by FromZeroToNinety, Aug 5, 2022.

  1. I quit when I was almost caught acting out by a family member. Nothing will wake you up if that doesn't do it!
     
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  2. Reading your brain on porn shook me as well as the devastation it was causing in my life as well as something vile I was about to do which shook me to my core.
     
  3. Usersamedame

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    nothing particular, just knowing my life will be ultimate hell was good enough for me
     
  4. This is comparatively minor, and this actually happened while I was on a NoFap streak.
    In flirting with girls, I would excessively impose my sexual fantasies (courtesy of my porn edumacation) on girls who were initially interested in me. Watching their disgust made me pause and think about my relationship with sex and exactly why I had these fantasies. Once I realized that pursuing these desires in the form of women was just me getting my PMO fix in real life, it became crystal clear to me just how useless and meaningless PMO really is.

    I can imagine myself remaining celibate for the rest of my life, but even if I do find somebody, I won't be as attached to that as I used to be.
     
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  5. dr.Jekyll

    dr.Jekyll Fapstronaut

    Finding out that I escalated into illegal stuff, and every step during the progression seemed so natural.
     
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  6. Yea I think maybe something about the intensity of the stimulus... since porn is so crazy and wild, it gets our hormones and adrenaline and all that stuff out of balance, throws off our pulse rate and everything else in our body as well. Not to mention porn and masturbation pretty much go against how our bodies are made - which is to bring forth another generation of people - from our own genetics.

    So maybe the combination of the extreme stimulus and acting in a way that doesn't go with how we are designed... so maybe PMO is a slow form of suicide, and simultaneously a way to destroy our future bloodline
     
  7. Uncomfortably Numb

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  8. Damn, that's dark.
     
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  9. voltex

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    I woke up one day and realized I became like the very same type of people I loathe, so it made me leave the only real close friend group I had
    Also on new years I made a resolution to quit jerking to pixels on a screen cause I felt awful every time I did
     
  10. CJLSC

    CJLSC Fapstronaut

    When I was sitting in a virtual work meeting and shaking all over (thankfully my camera was off). Kept asking myself what the hell was wrong with myself and I realized that the meeting was at the same time I normally get my 'high'. I then opened up a tab to go 'cruise the strip' in the middle of a damn meeting! That was the moment I realized I was an addict and needed help.
     
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  11. Peiskos

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    What did it for me was developing PIED (Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction) and realizing I was having trouble performing with my girlfriend, and realizing that if I continue this I'm going to lose her and end up in a deep dark depression and then just fall back to porn and eventually have my life go off the rails to a point where I can't recover. It's almost like I saw the future if I kept doing what I was doing and it wasn't a future that was very pretty.
     
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  12. Building up sexual frustration and sexual fantasies involving my female friends (ie treating them as fuckmeat)

    I think my former threads about cross dressing are enough proof how sexually frustrated I've become.

    Basically fantasizing, masturbation and porn made me crave more. It was never satisfying enough. And I know, that even if I got "more", I would crave even more and it still wouldn't be satisfying enough.

    I became aware that FPMO (fantasizing, porn, masturbation, orgasm) is just a self tormenting cycle of growing sexual frustration, which is triggered by your biological instincts to reproduce and offer up your life for your future offspring and wife.

    I'm 16 days clean right now, and I genuinely miss that feeling of sexual excitement and orgasm. Because, let's be honest, who doesn't, it's part of our biology and why PMO is an addiction in the first place.

    Maybe we're missing it because our body thinks that we're not reproducing. I don't know.

    I wish I could just turn it off. I will not relapse because why should i just frustrate myself more that I'm not getting sexually the things I want?

    Maybe if we would pretend to be a robot or asexual alien race which does not reproduce?
     
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  13. NFROB

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    I was increasingly having peid and not able to be with my wife.. even with blue pills. She doesn’t know or at least pretends not to. I’m committed to her and feel terrible about my problem making her question us.
     
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  14. You are me and I am you, this is the place to have this battle, here you are not alone.
     
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  15. feedthebear

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    When I started paying for P and interacting with people online even though I’m married. I also started to do things that could definitely be seen as illegal or at least, immoral.

    Earlier someone mentioned the cravings getting stronger and never being able to satisfy them. I was definitely feeling that. Just sexual frustration all the time. I’m not perfect, but even with the relapses since beginning my journey a year ago, I feel less sexually frustrated and more sexually literate, if that makes sense.

    Peace and good luck
     
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  16. Makes perfect sense to me, that's my goal too, just a return TOWARDS normalcy, but I'm trying to keep my expectations realistic.
    My ultimate goal is to have a normal, even boring, sex life again one day.
     
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  17. feedthebear

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    I came across a podcast a while back (actually, I was trying to act out and stumbled on it) that talked about how porn or sex addicts can return to sexual “normalcy”, but that it doesn’t mean it ends there. The expert explained how sex addicts are looking for that intense, extreme sexual experience, and when they decide to go sober, they fear that “normal” sex won’t excite them. She went on to say that when you are with a partner that you engage in “boring” (she used this adjective as well, if I recall) sex with, but grow emotionally connected to, the sexual arena becomes more comfortable, and the emotional connections stronger, which builds trust. Once that trust is established, extreme or intense sexual play becomes more enticing and even more rewarding.

    I can’t say that I’ve experienced this fully, but what I can say is this: my sexual experiences have become far more pleasurable, and the emotional effects that take place during the experience actually stay with me and my partner for much longer. Our sexual “trust” is getting stronger, and I have a feeling that we will want to explore each other more and more as we grow closer.

    It’s an exciting time for me, as I feel like I’m truly being reintroduced to sex in a much more wholistic and authentic way. Rather than experiencing sex through the P-colored glasses like I was, which always left me feeling lacking. Now, I’m in control of my sexual appetite (mostly), and feel more in control of my sexual experience as well. I also feel the reward of knowing that my partner is feeling more pleasure during, and more emotionally connected after.
     
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  18. Physical pain, years of Nofap on and off again, some point I realized I had and uncontrollabe problem.
     
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  19. I've known for a long time, but I never had the courage to give it a real shot until I realized it ruined my life up to this point. It sapped me of any motivation to live life to the fullest. I've probably lost many opportunities to porn, both directly and indirectly. It turned me into someone I never wanted to be and I lost my best friend/wife over it.
     
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  20. Lightweight enjoyer

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    My wake up call was that i couldn't get eroused and hard with girl. Oh boy i felt so ashamed and recked. After that i started to get informations about porn addiction and decided to fight it. I was on 3 months no-porn strick but last week my urge was stronger than my will power. But it's not over, i started the journey that i want to continue and improve myself/get better. Ronnie Colemans screams LIGHTWEIGHT BABYYY are my recent motivation hahah. Yesterday I also decided to go on sober september to support my relapse recovery. Stay strong folks and make it LIGHTWEIGHT BABYYYYYY.
     
    Last edited: Aug 28, 2022
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