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I think it's a common problem caused by PMO

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by kriss93, Oct 4, 2015.

  1. kriss93

    kriss93 Fapstronaut

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    Hy.

    I found out the ROOT of my PMO addiction (and HOCD).

    I think I'm not be able to be a man... I mean I think I'm pest to lead a family, to take care of a woman, and so on....but in my childhood (before PMO and MO overstimulation) I DIDN'T think this...I always loved to be a man and take care of woman...
    Now with this deadly and shit addiction I think it's easier to be a woman...but I don't wanna be gay or something...

    How can I prove and accept myself with the FACT that I'm ABLE to manliness...?! Any tips or suggestions will be good for me...
     
  2. You have, most likely, a fethish called autogynephilia - your brain is plastic and you just deformed it.
    Stop P and M and O for a while strictly, set good habits and you will set things right inside your brain.
     
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  3. kriss93

    kriss93 Fapstronaut

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    Ok. I'll do that. Can you suggest some 'good habits'?
     
  4. nfprogress

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    When you watch a movie like Kingsman, how does it make you feel? Can you relate to the character and what it means to be a gentleman? The ideal you may hold about maleness and being a man isn't the only ideal out there. You can construct your own reality without necessarily needing to be a woman (because it is easier is definitely not a good reason to choose being one sex over the other).

    Also consider developing habits that good people have (not considering sex). Respect, integrity of character, high ethical and moral compass, do good and help others, remember the golden rule. Try to set an example for those around you, pursue what you care about in life and stand up for your beliefs.

    As a side note, it never hurts to look at the specialization is for insects quote from time to time if you appreciate a good model with humor.
     
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  5. kriss93

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    What do you think is it possible to fully eliminate these fantasies, and getting cured totally from autogynephilia? I think it will be very hard but I KNOW that I always loved women...and I want a normal life without these fantasies...
     
  6. Of course it is within 3-6 months most addicts are 99,9% cured.
     
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    That's sounds really good, my friend... but until when I'm cured, what should I do when these fantasies come? I also have HOCD thougths because of this, but it's better since I realized this deeper problem.... I think that reading sex stories from woman's perspective just fueled my autogynephilia....but now i don't do that because I know that's wrong, but every time I imagine myself as a woman and being penetrating in a sexy thong or something like that it feels very arousing.... but I think I MUST eliminate this now, because It started to "embedded" in my everyday life and I started to think that "what if I will be a girl?" and so on... I know that old times I loved to be a man....fortunately I never crossdressed.
     
  8. You have to accept these thoughts. Wishing them to go away will only make them stronger.

    Imagining yourself as woman is trying to get a upper hand of your sexuality - like if the woman wants the sex, it is okay, so if i imagine myself as one doing lewd things is okay, like that train of thought.

    You just have to understand that you have a male body. The feelings of female body only ever happen in your head and are disillusional. I am sure the real things doesn´t feel like anything in imagination.

    If you are aroused, laugh about it, say to yourself these feelings are made up and not real, they just happen in a corner of your brain. You can´t erease thoughts, images or feelings by will but you can consciously OVERWRITE them like giving another image in a folder on your computer(brain) the same filename. Easy as pie in therory but immense willpower needed. The will to let go of pleasure the will to embrace withdrawal symptoms,the will to change completely and to embrace the pain that comes with it.
     
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  9. kriss93

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    Thanks for the tips...I'll do my best...I think because of porn my body is associated with a female body...
     

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