She left me

I'm sorry to hear your having this experience man, I had simlar nightmares gbeing led on by women or kind of not getting the same out of it as I was putting in. I can honestly say though the best thing you can do is just focus on yourself, don't just let yourself go but instead focus on goals for you. When you are working on bettering yourself in hobbies or career or health people notice, and you will meet someone who gets you, maybe has similar passions and plans in life and will be a better fit for you than anyone has. Sadly you can't force relationships, and in my experience they happen best when you're not trying. Good luck man, focus on yourself and developing into the person you want to be and it'll work out eventually. Spend time with your friends and enjoy life

 

Endings are always tough - especially when people don’t have a huge amount of emotional intelligence.

The great thing is that you lapsed and then recognised that it’s not the answer. Well done! That took great courage.

Try to use this as a stepping stone to a better life. One with strong boundaries and more self care and love.

We got your back, brother. Let her go without bitterness and regain your power.

 

Huh....I feel sad about this brother even this is happing with me currently I understand how you feel....people use us whenever they want and leave...its Okay now you have understood it so focus on yourself in improving yourself then automatically people comes to you
All the best brother keep going

 

I used to be married for 10 years. The transition was hard. I saw her almost every day during those years. Then it was over.

For the first year, I was so sad and lonely. How could life go on? I cried a lot.

Then I was kind of numb in the year after that. The healing process is gradual.

In the third year, I did my longest reboot and I rarely ever thought of her. I was ok with myself and my life. I could be alone, it wasn't painful anymore.

My belief is that everyone needs to be alone who thinks they can't be alone. The people who suffer in loneliness are the people who have let their lives deteriorate. They have overinvested in their relationships. This means that their careers, hobbies, skills, experiences, knowledges, fitness, good habits, and inner psychological work are all neglected. That is not right for any person, anywhere.

Sorry. I'll step down off of my soap box now...

 

Sorry to hear about your experience. Not a good experience at all and i'd be lying if i say i haven't been there before.

But these things help us to become our strongest and toughest self. They toughen you up. And they help you see what truly matters in life.

Don't be too upset.

 

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I'm also dealing with my partner (In this case wife) leaving me after 10 years of a relationship and around a year of marriage. Today would've been our year and I feel really low about it.

I'm still struggling, but based on others stories and what people have told me, it will get easier. It will just take more time than you realize.

Work on yourself. Being alone isn't the end of the world. It gives you time to work on what makes you happy and fulfilled. Once you do that, you might find someone who is also happy and fulfilled and you two make a happy couple. That's a long ways away though. Work on yourself first.

 

Something similar happened to me 2 months ago when I was in a relationship with a girl and then we broke up 2 months ago. We were talking to each other every day for hours sometimes, daily for at least an hour a day and we've seen each other several times and been on a couple of dates. When I tested her how she would react if I didn't call or texted her for a certain period of time she would call me and asked me if everything was alright and I said yes it's ok.

She would also often text me first and she was always so nice to me and while I was having studies she would motivate me to continue. However one day she didn't answer to my calls and messages and I panicked and call her several times but she didn't answer. Then she called me back the same day and acted very cold. We broke up soon after our last date where she was very nervous and stressed. She told me that I shouldnt call her anymore.

 

Yes I have been there, a couple of times. Heartbreak sucks. I was married (was with her from age 18 for well over a decade). Then I find myself single in my 30's when dating has completely changed (dating apps etc). Then I had a few brutal things happen when on apps that everyone goes through, hook ups, ghosting and that kind of thing. Really not good for the mental health. My tips would be - don't look for anyone else for a while, say 4-6 months. By this I mean don't use dating apps in that period. Focus on you - work, side hustles, gym. Basically focus on levelling up in life. At the moment dating is messed up as average women chase the top guys, but it is what it is. You decide your boundaries - by that I mean make a conscious decision what is acceptable to you, if you do meet someone. If you text and they don't reply, will you send a second text? A third? Will you "chase" girls or offer a date take it or leave it etc. You get the point. There are some good YouTube videos about it. In any relationship don't stop focusing on yourself, and always be prepared to walk away. Don't let any woman disrespect you.

 

Take the red pill

 

Chase a cheque , never chase a b***h