How has porn affected your sex life and expectations of sex

It does get better with time. Real sex can be more fulfilling, though rarely as exciting as porn. You’ll appreciate and admire your partner more which is a stronger foundation for a relationship.

I was your age when I first realized I was addicted to porn. I am still on this journey. If you don’t give your all when you are young, it only gets harder (that’s what she said).

 

Stopping porn made me decrease the degree of importance that I gave to sex and thus, I gradually have been putting less and less pressure on myself. Besides, that decrease in importance of sex has made me less obsessed about it, less obsessed about the frequency of sex with my girlfriend, about what we did or didn't do and so on.

 

I'm having this issue to. I can never seem to be satisfied or get aroused when I'm with my girlfriend. I figure it has something to do with my addiction, since she is one of the most beautiful people I have ever laid my eyes on. Knowing that I have this problem makes me anxious about sex, which probably affects my performance even more. It's definitely not her fault. I feel as if we can both have better results through quitting.

 

Im no expert but I am thinking that in the end we have objectified our SOs bodies by numbing the real sex by using porn. I can't say I've really had an issue with finding my wife attractive or arousing. But I do think it's affected my ability to be 100 percent in the moment with my wife during intimacy. Porn is a vicarious view of intimacy that we as users use an out of body fantasy to get aroused. I think my wife can sense that and to her it makes me seem disconnected. Which in turn makes her feel the same disconnecting feeling.

 

>How porn has affected your sex life
In no way, basically. I never had one.
>expectations of sex
I don’t expect anything.

 

I’d like to.
But as the years go passing by, I start to care about entering sexual life less.

 

Maybe porn is the reason for that?

 

Absence of any interest from women and being constantly rejected are the reasons I started to drown in it in my teens. That’s for sure.

 

Sorry to hear that man.

I had a few opportunities in my teens but never took them, mostly because I just didn't feel ready. From that point on I completely replaced women/sex with porn. I've never been rejected because I've never even tried, I have way more respect for guys that have at least made the effort than someone like me. Dating is a totally alien concept to me now, I wouldn't even know how to start - that's if I even had the confidence to do it.

There are loads of guys who didn't have much luck in their teens but had their "glow up" in their 20s and 30s, you shouldn't let that one time period define how women see you.

 

That’s not the period that defines how they see me, but myself. I am what I am anyway.

Just like there are plenty of men who are to stay virgins forever and more than that – never to be loved.