looking for tips on taking a break from dating

I think taking an extended break can be a chance to grow. As you focus on other areas of your life, you may change certain values or interests, and the demographic of girl you're after long term may change after just a few months of self-improvement, or self-focus.

My experience was I had a certain number of dates and opportunities, it was less than I wanted at the time, but the type of women I was dating or having an option to date wasn't really long term the best option for me. I had to change who I was to become a better prospect for different women who were more mature and kinder, for example.

So my advice is it can be a great time to see a new perspective and challenge yourself to question what type of woman you'd like in your life moving forward.

However, I would caution that one can get caught in the trap of self-improvement goal after self-improvement goal, always improving and not choosing a time to re-enter the dating world.

That was the case for me, a one year break I set for myself turned into several years. I am now a better version of myself, but I feel I missed the chance to grow more through dating women during part of that process.

TL;DR

You'll probably have epiphany moments of self-improvement looking inwards for some time, but you may want to be mindful of when it's best to reconnect with whichever women you choose.

 

That sounds like a good plan I think, go for a set time but be open minded if something lines up in the meantime. I swear half the things I plan go sideways or divert to another area, and that's usually not a bad thing in hindsight.

Another option perhaps could be to stay in the game, albeit with breaks. I mean even when dates go well, if we're meeting new people regularly it can be exhausting getting to know a new person again and again from scratch.

You could go 3 months off, 3 months on for example. Have that time to reflect and grow in other areas, then see dating in a new light.

It's interesting because I think so many of us want to figure this out and have a sense of control, but then a life event happens, we value something less or more, or we meet someone who gets us. Yeah good to take a break but agree hard to predict these things long term haha.

 

I did, for about 9-10 months, mostly due to religious reasons. I came to a point in my life where I've experienced everything that the younger version of myself wanted to experience, chasing shallow relationships and flings and it did nothing for me, except making me feel, after 9 years of a crazy lifestyle, terrible, to say the least. I decided to give religion one more chance, and as absurd as it sounds, I found happiness in abstinence, self-control and discipline.

One of the things I've had to do is stop sleeping around with women, which was extremely hard. The hardest part of it was saying no, and avoiding situations which led me into temptation. The amount of energy, and time saved was ridiculous. Not thinking about getting some, planning dates, dinners, gifts was replaced by work I've put into my business, self-improvement and learning a new language.

It was one of the best things I've done, because it turned me from this sex seeking fiend into a self-controlled person who's main motivation is progress and not sex. If you want to do it, trust me, you won't regret it.

 

We have a whole society where it’s mostly women who are suffering from “sexual diabetes” from hookup culture.