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Encouragement Needed

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Kubrick, Oct 9, 2015.

  1. Kubrick

    Kubrick Fapstronaut

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    Hey NoFappers. I need a little help. I don't know what's wrong with me. I haven't fapped or looked at porn, or really thought about pornographic thoughts at all for 14 days. I've been feeling a lot better about myself in general, but I suddenly have this feeling of not being satisfied. I want more, yet I kind of feel depressed. I'm currently jobless, and have been hunting for jobs and have had some opportunities come up, but no one has really gotten back to me. I just want to start working and start gaining as much experience as I can. I eventually want to be a great artist and filmmaker, and make films like no one has seen before. But it's really discouraging when I don't have a job, and I want to be and independent person that can support myself, yet I can't even land an interview.

    I just feel like I'm in a slump, and I don't really know why. I haven't messed up or anything, I just kind of feel depressed. Perhaps it's all of the porn watching I did behind everyones backs, and some of the deceitfulness and lying that I did, and maybe that's catching up to me.

    Anyways, if you could keep me in your thoughts and prayers I'd greatly appreciate it. I'll be talking to God about it.

    All the best,

    Taleah
     
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  2. Calm

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  3. Hey Taleah,

    I know that feeling of depression during the NoFap challenge. it usually has to deal with the fact that your body isn't used to not having a recurring stream of dopamine from PMOing. You just have to kind of let it pass. You're going to have waves of emotions and urges, and remember that its your body trying to get you to turn back to its addictive past. After awhile though, it'll finally find out that Porn is no longer an option, and it will re-regulate to a normal frequency for your mood.

    It's really tough man, but if you understand that it'll pass, it'll help you get past it. Its only temporary and the glorious energy and life of abstinence will come. Just know that all your emotions will be a bit unstable at first. Be quick to tackle down negative thoughts immediately if they ever come up.
     
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  4. Kubrick

    Kubrick Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your knowledge bro. I've been unsuccessful looking for jobs, so that kind of adds to the depression. Thank you though, that encourages me to fight it and make it through.
     
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  5. urnetworkguy

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    Salutations Taleah

    First off, great achievement; 14 days of self-discipline and concentrating on improving your present situation. Your feelings of self-doubt, meaningless living and confusion will result in depression. That being said its hard to let go of the past and look forward to better pastures. But you must let go. Let go of what has happened. Its done, and gone with history. The past job interviews might not have produced any fruits, but you can only keep trying again and again to persevere. I've been in the same position, regretful of the past and uncertain about the future, when I should have focused on the present, the now. The now is all we have brother, and the only significant changes we can make is in the now. Enjoy the rest of your Sunday, and leave your feelings and past experiences in the past where they belong.
     
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  6. Kubrick

    Kubrick Fapstronaut

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    Thank you brother. That's a good way to think. I'll try to forget the failures and think of future success.
     
  7. g2stop

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    Try and change the way you look at things. For example instead of being "currently jobless", be "actively looking for the next great opportunity", instead of feeling depressed, feel happy that depression is only temporary and there are greater things to come. Easy for me to say I know.
     
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  8. Icyweb

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    Try doing some follow up phone calls or visits, just to let them know you are really looking for a job. Sometimes, people will not call anyone who doesn't follow up, as a way of weeding out those who don't really want the job.
    Here's a link with some suggestions about that
    https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100805114621AA9sIZw
    Congratulations on your 14 days. It will get harder again, but then it will get easier.
    Try spending time around other people to help with the empty feeling.
     

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