What do I do?

I'm sorry about your situation, man. That sucks.

Well here's a few tips:

1) Take it small steps at a time and celebrate completing each step. For example, maybe try to meditate for 1 minute today, and every day for the rest of the week. This is a very easy target to complete and will make you feel proud once you've completed it. Then next week try 5 minutes every day of the week. And so on building up (with meditation and other habits). Feel proud of yourself for completing each step.

2) Change your beliefs. At the moment your belief is: no matter how much progress I make, I will never truly beat this. However, this isn't true: you got to 10 days, you've probably never been to 10 days before in your life. And you will go further. Therefore change your belief to: it is inevitable that I will beat this.

3) Don't beat yourself up for reseting. It doesn't help you, it doesn't help anyone.

4) Stay active on the forum. It'll help you to help others.

 

I agree with SeprentEagleHeart, it seems here are words of wisdom.
My own tips. Find something to master, use something you have always wanted to do with your time and now can. I have played piano since I started and have improved. Considering your condition, perhaps you might be able to do some exercise. Yoga, jogging, swimming, or anything that is good for you.

Finally, Meditation is an excellent way to improve, if you want I will attach a link.

Please realize this is just temporary, and believe as science shows that you will get better with practice.

 

Don't be upset after you do the deed. forgive yourself 100% and move on to the next goal. wethear it be ten days or what ever, the amount of days is not the issue, the issue is to forgive your self when you fail.

 

@Fallior, http://www.positivityresonance.com/meditations.html

 

Hey Fallior,

I'm sorry you're struggling with so much. There's a nice saying: everything feels too much, because everything is too much. So focus on one thing and start there, once you've realised you can change one thing it'll help give you the belief that you can change something else.

You've had some great advice. It's slightly old hat, I know, but I've found it very powerful to learn as much as I can about this addiction (Your Brain on Porn website is the best start), and from that I've got interested in neuroplasticity and psychology and so on... Knowing what's happened to me and what I can change has been a great help.

Take care - you'll do fine. You can do this!

 

Hello Fallior,

I'm sorry about your struggles. I believe you have to find some friends or hobby which could take your mind away from your computer. I know it is hard in your current situation, but everyhing is possible if you really want!

I am on an exchange, thousands of kilometrs from my friends and family. Pretty much everybody I know in this city are other exchange students, but all of them live at university campus. Only I live outside the city and it is 7 km to uni. Only way I can get to uni is by bike.
And everyday, even on weekends I go to uni to see other people. I hate it, often it is raining or really cold, but I go anyway. I would go even if it would be 10 or 20 kms. It would be still better than sitting home, closed in my room with my laptop. We can never recover being locked home all the time.

Try to find some friends and hobby. Try everything, no matter what it costs. It is worth it.

 

Hey there mate, just dont be too harsh to yourself because the problems that you're struggling, you are not alone about them. Be patient, try to "note" and remember your mistakes and eventually you won't do them again. Hoping best for you^^

Btw can someone like my post so i can edit my signature? Thx