About random porn thought out of nowhere.

Hi Dude,

Even I have same problem. I think random porn thought is common for everyone.
Initial days it would be very difficult to ignore random porn thoughts.
But, we have to control ourselves over a period of time at least for 30 days to avoid relapse.
We need some practice and need some powerful goal in our life to overcome this problem.
Don't feel depressed again it will lead to porn addiction.
Be active, do some activities make yourself busy.
One day you will get rid of all these problems.

 

There are people who, while rebooting, have porn thoughts and fantasies. Frequency of these thoughts vary from person to person. I've experienced then a lot and have caused a few of my own relapses.

Self control is key when having these thoughts. When you do have these thoughts do NOT act on them by looking up porn and/or jerking off. Let the thought or fantasy run its course. I agree with the guy above me, find alternative activities to do which will keep you occupied. Avoid activities that you feel can trigger you though.

The longer your reboot goes the better you get at controlling your PMO urges. Just be patient and strive to live your life without PMO. Good luck brother.

 

Time heals many wounds. As enough time passes (during which you have no exposure to porn, p subs, etc), you may simply stop having the flashbacks to porn. There is nothing wrong or abnormal with having them initially in my opinion. When you spend a lot of time with something and it is fresh on your mind, related thoughts will bubble up to the surface of your consciousness. One of the easiest ways to help with those thoughts is to separately build new and different habits that captivate your mind effectively enough to where you have fewer diffuse porn thoughts popping in.

I probably wouldn't wait until you have the thoughts, then figure out something to distract yourself with. Instead, I would build the captivating new habit long before the porn-filled monkey wrench hits. That way you have more defensive abilities at your disposal and are less likely to be caught off guard. If you don't quite understand how people accept the thoughts, consider doing a bit of reading on meditation. It will explain how to let negative thoughts pass by without ruining your resolve.

 

Continue to abstain and your PIED will get better. Continue to abstain and you will have better control. Those are called flashes. They happen to all fapstronaunts. Please just stick to you regiment and continue to direct your attention elsewhere. If they get too bad and you start getting urges, remove yourself from the situation.

Take a walk, go outside, exercise etc. Do something that you have to think about other than the flashes. For instance, you get a p flash, boom!, drop down and start doing push-ups. Watch something you enjoy that isn't triggering. Talk to a friend. Help someone on here with a problem they are having.

There are so many things you can do to keep your mind off of such things. Eventually, down this long ass line of time, you will feel your control come back. You will feel like you are the master of your own mind. Meditation and mindfulness are wonderful examples of mind cleaners.

I hope this stuff helps you buddy. We have all been in your position.

 

I feel rather than saying No in the sub-conscious mind, change the environment that triggers it. Better say to yourself- I am meant to be more than that.
More important thing is to say Yes to something else more important and "ugly old thought"? I am too busy for that- personally and socially.

 

If you don't indulge, it will get better, if you indulge, it will get worse.

 

I have been CLEAN for more then 150 days (stopped counting) - so I consider that a pretty long streak. It makes me feel very very good.
But I also dont want to lie: It is still sometimes very hard to do. Porn thoughts flash through my mind regularly and my body also rebells like crazy. Of course it has gotten easier but its still not like being an innocent child, unfortunately ...

 

An actual brain reboot from porn has been said to take anywhere between 5-18 months. If anyone is still having problems at 90, don't be surprised. 90 is just the challenge, not the amount of days we need to reboot.

We must abstain from PMO in order to become free. YMMV (your mileage may vary). Stick with it and it will happen.

 

Hi Sun Bro, thanks for that - actually very interesting. I see that your streak is at 221 days. Can you tell us how you are doing?

 

Well, I'm not sure how long it's been, but I haven't had an urge or flash in a very long time. It's hard to keep track of time when you are focused on your goals and not your counter.

I'll check my counter to see what day I'm on for my journal and be like "holy hell, I'm at 200 days" etc. Time will fly once you stop dwelling on PMO.

I got through my ogling problems back in February. I've had spouts of vulgarity or sexual jokes, but I believe that only happens when I'm sexually frustrated and haven't had sex in awhile. Just my brain trying to find some way to pull me back I guess.

I've made many wonderful habits and gotten back into lots of enjoyable things in my life such as reading, drawing, and exercising. I'm still having trouble sleeping and with nocturnal emissions every so often, but I haven't had an actual wet "dream" in recent memory. I do have sex at least weekly though, so it will be different for hard mode users. In fact, they should be better off than me.

All and all, I believe I am (and have compared my journals) a way better person from when I started this journey 11 months ago. I significantly better in many ways. My relationship and communication skill have improved. I'm able to enjoy things with my SO (especially sex) much more.

I hope this answers your question. If not, feel free to ask more specific ones.

 

Those pictures will be in your mind forever unfortunately. However the longer you stay clean the less prevalent and controlling they will be. You can't un-see porn, however it does slowly (months-years) move to the back of your mind

 

I guess that is also called being ALIVE, right? its the difference between pain and suffering as said in a nofap youtube video.
Meaning that the thought can come (pain) but it doesnt mean we have to dwell on it (suffer).

In theory its all clear but when it comes down to a stressfull day and triggers and being alone in the office it can get really hard. well ....
I am remaining strong - thank you everyone here