NO PORN 2023 CHALLENGE [CLOSED]

Thank you, this means a lot to me, it's been so long since I've reached 3 days even that it's feeling totally alien, every hour pretty much I feel the urge to masturbate since it's been such a habit and the knowledge that I'm not going to be allowed (by myself obv) to masturbate in any capacity to relieve the tension is extremely difficult to cope with, but it's like a switch flipped and I just refuse to do it. There is no option, I'm just going to beat this.

Can't wait til I'm at 7 days, congratulations, I can't wait til I'm a few weeks out from now

 

Day 16...

 

Awesome, I'm 100% dedicated to making this a full year without porn

 

Checking in, 0/365!

I agree 100% with your statement. Indeed, relapses don't come out of nowhere. Pulling all nighters or just going to bed a bit later than regularly stops your own dopamine production, which will lead to cravings the day after. A bad sleep also results in a weakened control of emotions, which will result in a vulnerable state for a former addict. Failure to do small things right makes one doubt his own self-discipline, which makes him weaker.

To make it easier to feel you're on the right track, Try modifying your goals into rules that are simple to follow. Some comments on your list:
1. IMO, Sleeping on a specific time is quite impossible to do for a whole year and as soon as you go over your deadline, it gets harder and harder to keep the deadline because, in a sense, you have already lost. An alternative goal which has helped me tremendously is controlling the screen time. Instead of deciding a specific time for when to go to bed, decide a time when to stop using your screens instead. It takes less than a second to close the lid on a laptop and less than a second to turn off a phone or TV, so this rule will be much easier to follow. If you forget it sometime, don't worry as long as you turn off the screen the very second you realise you are past the deadline.

2. I know this sounds like a very nice thing but it's also vague: How would you clean the house if it was supposed to be clean in the first place? If you clean the house, that means it was dirty but then you have also lost your goal. Maybe change this to something like clean the house for x minutes a day or so?

3. I like this one but try adding a definition to "useless" so that you are sure about what you can and cannot do.

4. This is something I would like to add to my own list as well

5. From time to time, I have been eating in a KETO-inspired style and it's really good!

I would suggest adding concentration meditation to your list. It's extremely effective in building self-discipline FAST. How I do it: I set a timer for 30 minutes, then I'm sitting comfortably in my sofa and looking at a point on the wall. Then I'm focusing on my breathing. After a few seconds a thought pops up in my head and I will drift away and as soon as I realise it I bring back my attention to my breathing again. Sometimes I also listen to pink noise while doing this meditation. What is so good with this practise is that you will get a lot better in staying focused while doing other stuff. For me, the thought of watching porn usually comes from nowhere. How I respond to the thought is a function of how good I have been sleeping, how much coffee I have been drinking, how much concentration meditation I have done, etc. Meditating for 30 minutes or one hour will strengthen my self-discipline for several days.

I wish you the best of 2023 and may the force be with you

 

ty for this post its very useful

 

Absolutely, but that's a reactive way of thinking, not a proactive one. By fixing your behaviour after the circumstances have already happened, you allow yourself to fail more than if you would have had a proactive way of thinking. When I had my best streak here on NoFap, I had a very good self-discipline where I had clear rules I lived by. If I failed with something, I analysed why I failed, then I came up with a proactive behaviour or rule I would follow, then I tried again, potentially with modified rules. For example, I once had a rule to stop using screens after 10 pm, then I failed a Friday night when I was watching a movie. After thinking about the why, I changed the deadline to 11 pm on Fridays and Saturdays, then I tried again and went on for months without failing. That's just my five cents.

 

I'm here, won't be too active online but will keep on IRL!

 

I am in for a clean year.

 

My daily check in: on day 2/365!

 

Checking in, first day completed
1/365

 

Every day is an achievenent to be proud of. My last successful streak was 20 days i think. It's been a long journey for me. I remembered when i couldn't manage 3 days. Hell i remember when i struggled with 24 hours.

Woke up nice and early on day 2, did some yoga and wrote my menu plan/shopping list for the week. Nice healthy food and a few healthy 'treats'. Nothing hardcore, just a sustainable diet plan for slow steady weight loss.

 

Checking in day 1/365

 

Checking in, first day down, 364 to go

 

2/365

 

Day 17.