Not able to get rock hard erections first time with girl

This is probably going to be hard to read (no pun intended).

The recovery process may take months, if not years before your sexual health gets back to normal. You may experience rock solid erections in a week, but it may not be 100% normal until 3 or more months from now.

Porn is a silent killer. Porn destroys relationships and makes you have an unfulfilling sex life.

 

It's worth getting looked at by a doctor. That you didn't feel much is a physical reaction. Your health is worth it.

 

It sounds like PIED, porn induced erectile dysfunction. But imo the fact that you're still getting some sort of erection during that kissing and cuddling tells me you weren't as bas as my case where I didn't get any movement whatsoever, from all the years of PMO. Then from there I started getting semi hards like you're describing, slowly those became full hard erections.

It's good that you've gone 2 weeks of stopping, keep it going and don't even peek at it, don't edge or test yourself in any way, I think the people that have the most success at regaining their sexual functioning and having a healthy sex life are those who realize that this isn't just something you do for a number of weeks or months or years. It's a way of life, to be free from porn and addiction is the only way.

We tend to reach a point in our lives where we're confronted by real life, like you being with this girl..that's real life, that's not something you'll ever experience from a porn scene. Use it as motivation to get on the right track because it's always better when you make these changes when you're as young as possible.

 

It's going to be your first time.
Are you maybe just nervous? Do you feel safe and intimate enough with her? Or do you feel you'll have to perform?
We're no machines, your penis isn't a machine. We need to relax to get really hard.
Talk with her, take it easy and go with the flow. Have more foreplay. Have only foreplay. Don't push yourself, you'll get there.

(Plus I agree, stay away from P, it gives you the wrong ideas...)

 

I’ve had similar experiences, 3 days no pmo usually sorted it, even then maybe a struggle, and if you are going to MO, then go slow with lube, you might have death grip too, can be sorted quickly, don’t worry, keep up not watching porn as that is very detrimental, don’t think about it too much either when with your girl, focus on her and your brain/ body will do the rest automatically

 

I am gonna ask a question first. Do you still get those rock hard morning erections? Like those in the younger years? Then it's definitely the porn, but mostly in your head. Well the porn in your head.
Firstly, stop thinking about. Don't watch her while she's giving you head. Watch a movie or lie back and do sth else. Try to distract yourself. They say be in the moment. But sometimes, you need to just feel it not pay attention to it.
Another thing you could do... Is tell her to suprise you. Not when you expect it, not where you expect it either.
If it doesn't, keep quitting the porn, have more of the physical contact.

 

Haha, I pole vault out of bed.

 

Can't be reiterated enough!

 

Diet and good eating habits help. Skip the nicotine and beer too.