Married with no chance of sex

Had some droughts that have lasted as long as a year. Happened b/c I was PMOing like crazy and started tuning out the world.

6 years is a long time with no intimacy. Obviously it took awhile to get there so why can’t you start back up?

 

Yes, I was for 12 years. It was very depressing at times and for a few of those years I was in the grip of full blown PMO.
It's a disgusting way to live. Freedom and purity is much more satisfying. You wrote, there is no intimacy there at all no matter what I do. Is there love? That can make all the difference in the world.
I wish that I had some good advise for you but all that I can do is to congratulate you for being here on this site trying to become a better man and wish you well in that endeavor.

 

Kind of. A couple of years ago, my wife had decided that we would not have sex again, so gave me permission to go on-line. I became addicted to a camera model and have been working on that addiction here.

 

Wow. This just sounds like the worst possible outcome to me. I'm really sorry you all have found yourselves in this situation. :/

 

is it common for partners to decide to not have sex again with eachorther forever? what is happening I don't understand .is it of boredom . or u guys decide to have sex with other person??

 

My wife is nearly 67 and has simply moved beyond sex. For more info, see my journal -- button below my picture.

 

Does that mean after a certain age sex is boring/no use

 

It depends on the person.

 

What Ive heard, sex only gets better with age? Have you considered sex/couples therapy?

 

No offense, dont ur wife want sex with u ? Doesnt she have horny feelings ?

 

I know someone, his wife dont really love her husband, but she married for financial reasons, now husband complaining his wife dont want to give him sex, but he cant divorce either because of cultural shaming.

 

Wow sounds like me and my wife, married for seven years, we haven't even had sex, my porn addiction and porn ed has messed my body up. I feel so sorry for her because she is one of the most kindest and most innocent kind of women ever. She didn't understand my addiction and affects of porn but finally last year it took toll and she has been so depressed as her body has been wanting sex and I'm sure she wants a child as well as I do. So I stopped watching porn in August and I still am not getting anywhere. No morning wood but alot of wet dreams. I been watching porn for 21 years and now I'm 34. It will take me a long time but I really hope my wife's suicidal thoughts and feelings of emptiness goes away. I love her and I just can't get hard at all. I had many exes and even with them I couldn't do it. Ruined my life.

 

hey , man i hope u acheive what you want to do . i have some doubt too. i been fapping since 8-9 yrs and i am currently 22. my fapping habit is like everyday . i feel like i future i may not be able to satisfy my partner if fapping at this rate exists. what would you advice me ? is fapping like this dangerous for my future?? does that make my pp degrade in performance?? will ill not be able to make children anymore if i don't change??

 

What's the point of self pleasure? You are only fooling yourself to having sex with another human being. It is not real. Sure it "feels pleasurable" but it is 1000x better with another human you love. Please stop and be the best you can be <3

-Duck

 

I was like you, for sure you can have problems because of this in the future.

I have 34, married, and like you I did PM for long time, that caused me ED and desensibilization, after 4 years with this problem, I started my recovery. I'm doing great, the ED problems are vanishing, and I am enjoying the sex again.

Don't let that happens in your life, that almost destroied my relationship, and coust a lot in my life.

You have the chance to change it now.

(Sorry if I wrote something wrong, English is not my first language)

 

Hi man,
Are you already talked to her about that?

That seems a problem that you both need to face together.

After so long time without intimacy, I believe that you two should started the relationship againg. Go back to dating time, you need to reconect again, fall in love to each other again. The sex is not important in this fresh start, it will comes naturally with time.

And for you, use this time to recovery from your PMO problem. Stay in line, with time you will fell much better. I really wish you the best of luck.

(Sorry if I wrote something wrong, English is not my first language)

 

I feel your pain buddy - I’m on a 5 year dry spell at home for a range of reasons. Massive family trauma due to a mental health issue that nearly broke us all - but we’re holding together and building things back. But the sex hasn’t come back.

I wonder if is partially menopause but I need to crack my 90 day reboot before I “hope” for anything at home… so don’t even want to raise it yet. But I’m wondering if I’m serious about PMO and there is nothing at home if I’ve had my last O!!

and that does worry me a bit!!

 

Quite an informative thread on some practical issues. I am married with two kids. I wouldn't say we are in dry spell, yet sex is very rare. Mainly due to my pmo addiction. ED sometimes, other times a little better if I am on some streak. I love my wife very much. This time I am going full PMO hopefully at least 30 days or may be 60 days. Some suggestions:
- if sex is not in the picture for now, there are other ways to show her your love. May be a passionate kiss sometimes, a slap on the ass or some lovable fondling. Keep her remind of your love.
- Dating sometimes, or some nice jesture at home, flowers etc.
- Listen to her, i know its mostly blah blah, still she is your wife and she deserves to eat your ear.
- Work on you, nofap, exercise, meditation, make yourself more controlled and attractive to her.

 

Hey man keep going. Who knows what's gonna happen?