53 Days porn free... success?

Seeing you confident about quitting being great for you is inspiring. I'm proud of the progress you've made. Keep going!

 

I wouldn't consider periodic masturbation with no death grip and no porn unhealthy......but due to my beliefs I wouldn't do it again. Also, I don't have any good memories of masturbation, it has been mostly to porn. Masturbation isn't a necessity to life for me, so my goal is to not go back.

 

Sir, You are doing absolutely fabulous and a motivation to others on this form.

Can you please elaborate about benefits with respect to PIED ?
Is it a perfectly stiff erection during the entire duration of sex ?
Do you get instant erections?
What is your recovery time between two erections?

 

Great man !
Best Wishes

 

Congratulations, man!!! Good going. You are right there, many would not agree with you, including me on MO being as dangerous if not as damaging as PMO at this point. MO'ing is like playing with a double edged sword...it could lead to chaser effect eventually...Hope it doesn't happen.....try to go hard mode for a few days and see the difference. People say all kinds of shit...that its ok to jack off once every 14 days or sth, which I think is total BS. Unused sperm will get re absorbed into the body. Anyway I hope you consider taking MO off the agenda as well.

What 3 ideas or habits have helped you get there?

 

That's great! At least you have freed yourself from the evil clutch of porn and now don't get too laid back and instead of patting yourself on back, aim for quitting mastrubation. Chaser effect didn't bother you this time but everytime you won't be lucky. Basically, the downward spiral comes right after these things, after masturbation I didn't feel chaser effect, I just peeked in a little on Instagram but hey my mind is so strong now that I didn't feel like watching porn after that. Once decided to leave this pmo crap behind, it must stay behind. The jizz you wasted on mastrubation is required at this stage to make you mentally stronger and focused. My best wishes.

 

Have you found PAWS aka withdrawal to be an issue for you? I mean I read about people suffering with depression and anxiety because of a withdrawal syndrome from quitting porn and I hope it's not real as I'm doing this to feel positive effects like more motivation, energy etc and not negative consequences! Already been through one awful withdrawal from prescription drugs and don't want to go through another! Thanks

 

This is definitely a success story in my books, @James_1712. Congratulations!

If you look at my counter, you will see that I too focus my recovery on no p. Broadly defined to include images, substitutes, chat, cam, and phone, this is really what allows this addiction to spiral way out of control for me. As a result, it's what I want to cut out, it's what I am cutting out.

This means m and o remain occasional parts of my life, which I'm okay with. In fact, sometimes I feel so proud after an m session that takes fifteen or twenty minutes, remembering that I used to sink hours and hours into this activity when it was fuelled by p.

So yes, congrats on your awesome success story. May we both continue to heal and recover.

 

These days I am getting a more deeper understanding of this addiction and PAWS. The menace is real, but the thing that is being widely discussed is that only 20-30 percent withdrawal symptoms are real and they don't stretch beyond anywhere from 6-11 months. The depression that lingers in is basically the real life problems that we all porn addicts had been avoiding all that time and now they are in front of us to be solved or faced head on. PMO or any other addiction for that matter is basically and now scientifically, a way to cope up with other issues/problems in life. Whenever those problems arose, we found the soft hands of PMO taking us into its provocative embrace and allowing us to forget it for that time period. So, as an addict for 20 years and doing plus 5 times almost every day I know PAWS first hand. But as I mentioned that this new understanding of addiction and long intervals of recovery is teaching me about my personality, the faults and the escapism. I was an escapist, running from certain aspects of my life. Now, I have to sort them out without getting numbed by PMO. I consiously tried for at least six years to get rid of this addiction

 

Wow to have gone from 5x plus per day to over 500 days free of PMO is an incredible achievement! I have also been trying for 5 years and never got beyond 89 days but I am feeling a new found determination...like I don't want to waste any more time in my life and I want to really live the best possible version of myself and that time starts now. Thanks for responding

 

Also, what I have seen during this period is we PMO addicts take so much time recover is due to the fact that we can't and don't discuss our addiction with family and friends. All other drug addicts and their addiction is known by their family and friends and they take them to rehab multiple times. They get counseling. We on the other hand, don't get any of that and have to figure it all out ourselves with the zombie brains of ours. So, that a huge part why we take years to get out. Of drug addicts had to figure it out on their own and without any help from family, rehab and counseling, they would never make it in their entire lives.

 

Yes this is so true...PMO is a hidden addiction that never gets revealed out of societal shame...which is ironic as most people are using porn but won't ever talk about it. It's as addictive as any drug.....strength to us brother!