How long can you go without an orgasm?

Hi everyone,

I came here because masturbating in a wrong way (death grip syndrome, too fast and too hard) led me to lose sensitivity and probably have an erectile dysfunction. I also believe that 20 years of watching porn has conditioned my brain to be aroused by other people having sex, which does not carry over to me having actual sex. It makes it hard for me to engage in sex with an actual person I love. Which is why I am here.
The last few years I have tried to stop masturbating on numerous occasions. But how does this go for you guys?

Not masturbating leads to an increase of testosterone levels. The human body has its own detection system for testosterone and will detect this rise. Therefore there will be a need to eventually have an orgasm. Which then causes a fast drop in testosterone levels.
My main objection to masturbation was going so fast that this kind of stimulation can not be achieved with real sex.

So a few months ago I had not masturbated for 1 week (which was a record) and then I did it slowly. I also didn’t do it by watching porn. I was in the shower, did it slowly and only used my imagination.
Is this an improvement? I think that any guy would go crazy after not having a sexual release for 1 week or longer. Regardless if that is with sex or with masturbation. Is this accurate?

I want to set some goals. The eventual goal is to not watch porn again, and have a normal sex life

 

So imagine a 20 year old man who is dating. I guess a normal couple has sex twice a week. This equates to a drop of testosterone and dopamine (after the orgasm) every 3 days, due to prolactine being released and keeping these 2 low for an extended period of time.

Now the same man who is used to this release every 3 days, gets dumped by his girlfriend and is single. The nofap mindset says that he should not masturbate until he has a new girlfriend, maybe one year later. I recently watched a neuroscientist explain what abstinence of masturbation does to ones testosterone levels. Abstinence, or sex/masturbation without ejaculation, increases testosterone levels by 400% in one week. This is huge, and must affect ones temper.

I abstained for 5 days straight. I'm somewhat stressed and get anxious about penetrating my girlfriend because of previous fails. After 5 days without masturbating, I had no difficulty with getting aroused when we were intimate. My erection was very solid, most likely because of a 400% increase in testosterone levels. I think there was just the problem of premature ejaculation, and loss of sensitivity had we continued with real sex.

At least I'm happy that some abstinence gets my libido back. Now I have to tackle the rest