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Disgusted by sexual stuff

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by pauts, Mar 7, 2014.

  1. pauts

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    I am becoming more and more disgusted with sexual things. I can't even imagine kissing a woman on lips, it's so repulsive. I still do get erections from pictures or women from afar but these erections go away when I try to imagine how I would touch a woman and she would touch me.
    I remember that when I was a kid I used to say "sex is crap" but I still masturbated. Now it's almost like that. Although I really like when girls and women like me, but I don't want to do anything with them.
    This is very weird, right?
     
  2. LustFREE

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    The effect of porn and PMO and MO is different on everyone. You're right to be on this forum and looking for answers, so congratulations on a good first step. What you're experiencing is one of the MANY effects. The longer you go with abstaining completely (reccomended process is minimally 30, ideally 90 days), the more you will rebalance yourself and your life. Good luck-
     
  3. pauts

    pauts Fapstronaut

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    I'm feeling like I'm going back to where I was as a kid before porn - disgusted by sex.
     
  4. gettingreal

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    I think when you're with a friend and having laughs while trying some things with sex, you'll find that the right person can put your mind as ease and enjoy things. At some level sex is disgusting. And so is eating. Have you ever really watched someone eat a chocolate donut? Makes you want to get IVs for the rest of your life! :) At some point you'll get to the point where putting your lips against another person will be the most wonderful thing ever. Conrgats on the strong start!
     
  5. Saserman

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    While I don't find normal sex disgusting yet, I am starting to find some of my old fetishes that I used to fap to somewhat repulsive, and sometimes I ask myself "Wtf was I fapping to?". This is a good thing in my opinion.
     
  6. LustFREE

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    Yes, Saserman- this IS good. It's somewhat of a starting point in that you can move from that repulsion to make it a severe 'pain' point. Your brain will instinctively do MORE to avoid pain than to gain pleasure. Sex in itself is wonderful and can in fact be far BETTER by making it more personal and intimate. The more you move from where you were (with MPO, fetishes, etc), to the new you, you begin to actually 'transform' youself into a less selfish, animalistic creature into a full person that is more giving, caring, thoughtful, etc- all the positive emotions that then in turn feed a greater intimacy.

    Stay strong!
     
  7. Mark

    Mark Distinguished Fapstronaut

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    Its possible that when we stop participating in something that the 'pendulum' can swing completely the other way. For instance when I stopped smoking I found cigarettes etc to be utterly repulsive and even judged others for being smokers. Perhaps our minds need to completely separate from certain behaviours and this is how it manifests sometimes? With patience and understanding the pendulum eventually settles somewhere in the middle where you will be avoiding the 'extremes' of, on the one hand, porn, and on the other being repulsed by anything sexual etc. Maybe you just need to be aware of this possibility and allow your mind to find that 'middle way' where you will be free to pick and choose what serves your best interest from a 'centred' position without being restricted by a limited view/perspective which comes from finding yourself polarised/in the extremes if that makes sense?
     

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