I want to believe to jesus but i am afraid

One of the greatest mysteries of the Christian faith is the more you surrender to Jesus the more alive everything becomes, and these types of crossroads moments are actually invitations from him to experience his life and the agape love he promises.

He did this when he asked the rich young man to follow him. He’s asking you now when it comes to sex and he isn’t even asking you to not have sex but to not have it in a way that will ultimately lead to your unhappiness.

Take the leap of faith and put your trust in him! You won’t regret it.

 

Trust me, when you're 30+ you're going to wish you had married sooner. The dating pool only gets shallower as you get older. I'm 36 and I don't want a "starter family," thank you very much.

 

Jesus hung around with sinners because they were the people who needed him.
No matter what you do, if you genuinly seek Jesus, you will receive forgiveness and support from Jesus and God.
Jesus ate and drank with his disciples, he forgave prostitutes and sinners every day, that was his whole purpose on Earth.
He knew people were not perfect, and so came to show them the path to happiness and a brighter future.
Put your trust in Jesus, pray to him, and live your life the best you can.
If you fall don't worry Jesus understands, and will forgive you, and bless and support you.

 

I think 23 is the perfect time to look towards marriage. The older you get the harder it becomes to keep up with your kids. If everyone jumped off a bridge at 30 yrs of age, would you?

 

You can’t get married while being at university?

I would encourage you to prayerfully read James, Chapter 4. In this chapter James talks about those who have a double heart and who commit the sin of presumption when it comes to Gods mercy.

It’s presumption to think you can offend goodness without consequence. This presumption was part of the devils temptation from the beginning “you will not die”. It’s presumption to think you will have the opportunity to repent at 30 or that you will be given the grace to do so after rejecting the grace to repent now. What if you have sex before marriage and God calls you to the judgment the next day? What would you say then? What did God say to the guy who spent his life building bigger barns to hold his earthly stuff?

Luke 12:20 “But God said to him, ‘Fool! This night your soul is required of you; and the things you have prepared, whose will they be?’

You don’t think he will say something similar to the man building barns of sexual pleasures?

Thou shalt not tempt the Lord thy God.

 

Great. Make your time then a fruitful experience in building the virtue of chastity. Clearly you’re not afraid of hard work. You sacrifice plenty to invest in this temporal life, why don’t you approach the goal to everlasting life with the same resoluteness?

 

I highly recommend this book, it changed my life.

Cheers.

 

Not sure it’s necessarily a sin to have sex before the ceremony of marriage which is just a show to your community and family that you’re really serious it would be a sin to have sex and then go your separate ways and have more sex with others that’s fornication so as long as your staying with her with the view towards a family type life your good to go but just remember if you can’t hold off on sex until you marry her you probably aren’t going to have the inner grit and fortitude to make a marriage work it’s tough stuff you have to have massive discipline and retaining helps with that I would recommend getting on a plan of Bible reading prayer mind calming techniques like meditation and internet restriction, working out and lifting weights and some running or cardio of some type. Be the best man you can be. Also being a Christian is all about letting the Lord take your sin debt away that’s pretty important

 

Fornication is voluntary sex between two unmarried individuals or two individuals not married to each other.

 

So you are looking at step 50 and don't need to worry about that till later. The idea of God and Jesus in Christianity is that you don't have to be perfect for him to love you. God sent Jesus to die and pay the debt for anything you have ever done and anything you will do that is bad. You do not! need to be perfect to believe in him and for him to help you. If you take step 1 and believe in him the rest will follow because He will make it easier.

Here is what I found from my own experience. I was 23 years old and had a 4 year old child, unmarried, still in college. I started to think that maybe God is real and then I read enough to understand for myself that he is and that all I had to do was accept he died to save me. After that I was still skeptical and I was still living my life how I usually did, but I noticed over time that my bad habits started going away because my mind was changing. Which brings me to why I am here on this page, I have believed for 10 years now and God is finally helping me to overcome my worst disease.

Long story short. If you trust God, he will carry you through your worst times and this concern might not be a concern in a month/year or two. For all you know your going to meet a woman that you are meant to marry when your overseas in the military. In my life I never thought I would be where I am but I can see every place that God guided me in the right direction. I have a good job, I own my house, have a great wife, and 3 great kids and what did I have to do for this? Just accept the hand that he was reaching out. Good luck my friend and God bless you.

Don't overthink it. Alot of people make it way more complicated than it is. God loves you, he forgives you, just apologize and accept his forgiveness.

PS: From a sex addict, the sex isn't that great an experience without someone you love on the other end anyway so you are not missing much, except the shame and pain of a "hangover". Its more about the connection anyway.

 

Yea you don’t want to because you want sex and all that but God put natural laws into place and you will find as a Christian or not when you violate them you’re going to pay the price. Luckily as a Christian you have a nice conscience working overtime for you as a warning. Once you have sex with a woman you are morally bound to her, spiritually you must be married. So you can’t just go around having sex. That is for animals. We humans can’t afford that crap. It messes with our hormones and feelings and can make an expensive child.