Need help. Sissy addiction got back

Hi fellow sufferer,
That sissy phantasm can be strong isn't it?
I was involved in that poison but I can say, I am free.
It's 2 years ago I used that drug for the last time.

What I have learned it that we need to dismantle our fetishes.
Like you dismantle a bomb to take away the danger.

Have you every worked on your root issues? Your childhood traumas?
Where does the "need" for that "sissy and tg stuff" has its roots in?
Fear? Identity issues as a male? Lack of confirmation from your father?

I would like to give you a friendly warning.
Be amazingly careful to step into real life acts.
The step from phantasm to real life is amplifying the thrill a factor 1000 I think.
But the down after the height will be amazing low, as you will misuse your dopamine system the most horrible way when you step out in real life to get your "fix".

There are many good books that describe the connection between our unwanted sexual behavior and our childhood issues. I would like to advice you to first dig into your traumas and face them and eventually solve them with the help of a therapist.
My experience is that the need for drugs (sissy porn, tg porn etc) will be eliminated that way.

Another thing:
A fetish is an emotional need that has been stayed unfulfilled, but now you try to get this unfulfilled need fulfilled in some sexual way.

What is the emotional need to try to get from these sissy and tg fantasies?

Make sure you get your answers. They are deep inside of you.
But every time you give into toxic sexual behavior you throw another layer over the pain, becoming more difficult to get in touch with it.

 

You need to understand this first: You aren't a sissy and you aren't a woman, you just unconsciously hate yourself. The strong effect that trans/sissy hypno has on you has nothing to do with you actually being trans or feminine. Instead, it has everything to do with subspace psychology and an unconscious self-destructive drive, which is often underestimated and which can have have a very sexually charged and alluring quality to it. Freud was one of the first ones who spoke of the strong drives for sex and destruction in humans. This self-destructive energy is nurtured by a society that a) makes a lot of men feel inferior, b) condemns traditional male ideals, without showing a functional alternative, c) undermines healthy relationships, d) tells men that they aren't "real men" whenever they don't want to conform, although male values are, in fact, rejected. This kind of double think becomes increasingly prevalent and a lot more could be said about these destructive dynamics, but we want to stay concise here.
Eventually, you get a generation of deeply insecure and self-loathing young men without orientation, and that's what makes them susceptible to sissy hypno. But all its effects are merely an illusion and can be undone. If you go down this rabbit hole until its very end, you will inevitably see that there will be no sexual satisfaction left, but you will only see the reflection of your own mind, in its most broken state. Then you will need to build yourself back up tediously, but at least you will know that all the sexual excitement that lead you there was a mere illusion. Or you can start right now and leave the toxic nothingness behind in the void, where it belongs. It's your choice.

 

As for being over 40 and divorced, that can be a bit of an issue, depending on where you live. You might also want to look for partner options abroad.

 

One thing a lot of people forget when recovering from porn addiction is you have to reboot AND REWIRE. If the last thing you got off too was sissy fantasies 7 months ago, it’s still the last thing your brain remembers to achieve an orgasm. You need to rewire to more normal and natural things to further destroy the conditioning you have created. It also depends on how long you have been using porn and how long where you indulging in these fantasies that are probably a result of porn escalation?

 

Dude, don´t overthink . You are just desensitized.

" Over time, a user's brain can change physically. Signs of fundamental brain changes (as opposed to short-term habituation) may include: chronically impaired impulse control, spikes in desire in response to cues he associates with pornography use, and decreased sexual responsiveness. He is no longer registering pleasure normally; your numb brain is desperate for dopamine Stimulation hits. For the climax, he Creates to watch longer or move on to new genres of pornography.

This is not purely theoretical. Recent animal research reveals that high levels of dopamine (introduced through a dopaminergic D2 agonist drug) can alter sexual preferences in males. Insensitive pornography users look for anything that will increase their dopamine. Once they find you, dopamine spikes and the process of reconditioning your sexual response begins. If they continue to masturbate to the new genre, the dopamine will reconfigure their sexual circuitry, leading to an inadvertent and often alarming shift in pornography taste that makes it difficult, if not impossible, to climax for previous tastes. It's little wonder that, as users slide along the pornography spectrum in search of the next big "O," they can climax with visuals that are unnerving . "

 

" The reward circuitry is home to evolutionarily ancient centers responsible for influencing or controlling all bodily functions, perceptions, moods, emotions, drives, urges, learning, memory, and of course – libido and erections. Your autonomic nervous system and most major hormones are controlled through reward circuitry structures and chemicals. Additionally, nearly all emotional and mental disorders arise from imbalances in these same structures and neural pathways. It’s no wonder so many differing symptoms can arise from a reward circuitry altered by porn addiction or sexual conditioning. Although very complex alterations in brain structure and functioning occur in all addictions, the following four categories comprise many of the major changes:

1. A numbed pleasure response (desensitization of your reward circuitry)
2. Formation of sensitized addiction pathways (sensitization – which is also behind sexual conditioning)
3. Inhibition of executive control and decision making (hypofrontality)
4. Malfunctional stress system – which manifests as even minor stress inducing cravings because stress neurochemicals activate powerful sensitized addiction pathways. "

 

Bro listen to what I’m telling you, even if you went 7 months with no PMO, that’s just half the work, you have to REWIRE. If the last thing you orgasmed too was your porn induced fantasies, your brain still has the neural pathways that your extreme tastes equal dopamine and orgasm, you need to replace this by rewiring and replacing the fantasies with more natural stimuli. Yes normal sex with women became arousing to you again because when you abstain it allows your dopamine levels to return to normal, and normal things will arouse you again, but you need to start associating dopamine and orgasm with normal things. Reboot AND rewire.

 

I am a 26 year old guy. I have never had sex with a girl. I haven't even dated anyone. I discovered that I had erection problems and lack of libido. No morning wood, soft erections, sometimes no erections. Other than that, I have a few issues while masturbating.


I have been masturbating for about 3 years with high speed porn. I had a very high libido, I was horny even with the name of sex, but now even porn failed sometimes. Now my erection goes away after ejaculating just once. I had the ability to do two laps easily and after a few hours I could easily feel aroused again. All of that is on the decline.

Two months ago I used to have almost fixed erections but it started to decline and stopped cancelled. I also experience trouble sleeping and getting dark when I can't get erections. I'm getting weak day by day. It's not that I don't want sex, sometimes I desperately need it, but I can't get an erection. Help me

 

Maybe you need a longer break from all sexual stimuli. Try to reduce everything sexual as much as possible, im much younger then you so my brain rewires much faster and also my porn addiction hasn’t been as long as yours… so maybe my experience will be different then yours.

 

I noticed one day that it is very difficult to get an erection, so I gave up porn. And from folds of 2 months until now my erections are only decreasing..Very very complicated to have an erection. Can it go back to normal. it worries me too much

 

Seconding what others have said with rewiring being just as important as abstinence from porn. If you do the former, you can fill the void created by the latter with something meaningful. It doesnt need to be relationship or sexual oriented, you could just as easily (well not easily but you get what I mean) focus that energy into your career or some other fulfilling thing.

 

D'accord merci