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How to find a girlfriend at university??

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by HardWorkOnly, May 12, 2023.

  1. HardWorkOnly

    HardWorkOnly Fapstronaut

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    Just give me suggestions,what can i do?,how to start conversation?
     
  2. pz15298

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    There are 1,000 ways to do it. What's your specific situation? Do you have a specific girl in mind or a type of girl? The more specific the better.
     
  3. HardWorkOnly

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    i went to a psycologist and told him about my problems and porn addiction, he told me that i have to find a girlfriend first so i have to set this as a goal.so i will try to find one at my university but i dont know how to start, what to ask, where to go. If you where in my place and wanted to find a girlfriend at the university what will you do?. I told my psycologist that i have approached girls on the street but didn't have any success and he suggested me to try at my university where girls feel more safe and confortable
     
  4. pz15298

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    Fire your psychologist. "Find a girlfriend" what BS advice is that?? Did you ask him "And how exactly do I find a girlfriend?"

    Read this post I just wrote
    https://forum.nofap.com/index.php?threads/how-to-use-nofap-forum-to-find-a-girlfriend.348376/
     
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  5. HardWorkOnly

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  6. pz15298

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    It's like me telling you "become a millionaire", "buy a house" or "get a job at NASA".

    Btw you use porn because you are addicted, not because you're lonely. A girlfriend will not cure your porn addiction. You should work on your porn addiction while looking for a girlfriend
     
  7. HardWorkOnly

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    look i only did one consultation with the psycologist,i have other problems in my life that made me addicted, so i have to fix those problems. There are years that i have tried to stop this addiction by myself without getting into a relationship and have failed over and over again. So i have to change my life,i will set as a goal to find a girlfriend, in the next consultation i will try to remove any limiting beliefs.We will go step by step,just trying all day not to fap and doing nothing will not improve my life
     
  8. HardWorkOnly

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    I am lonely and have family problems thats why i got addicted to porn,so now i have to keep living my life as good as i can.I cant wait for years till i remove this addiction and wait for everything to get perfect so then i will try to find a girlfriend
     
  9. HardWorkOnly

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    we will do a lot of work on many problems that i have not just porn addiction, we are trying to find and cure the causes of porn addiction, he didn't told me "aa you are addicted because you dont have a girlfriend" but somehow i have to fill that void of loneliness and remove that trauma from my family problems
     
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  11. JustinX

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    Like our pal Trump said: "Grab 'em by the p*ssy".
    Or maybe not.
     
  12. Use quitting porn as a motivation, Don't try dating until you make it 90 Days without porn or masturbation.
     
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  13. HardWorkOnly

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    No there is not more waiting ive been waiting years to fix this addiction and nothing happened i need connection with another human being so it will be easier to quit and start living my life
     
  14. HealingBodyandMind

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    I agree with his recommendation. He sees you are sad because of not having a girlfriend, and the best solution for highest happiness is to find a girlfriend
     
  15. But actually finding one, one who genuinely cares enough about you. That's the real hard part, and I am determined to kick my Pmo habits before I ever start dating.
     
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  16. I think that only works if one is rich and famous.
     
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  17. You should definitely get into good, long term recovery before considering a girlfriend. Women are not tools to cure your loneliness through romantic relationships. Friends can also help your loneliness. Until you are in solid recovery, you are not in a state to reciprocate any kind of emotional support a girlfriend might be able to be for you. Find some friends and build good friendships.
     
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  18. HardWorkOnly

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    I don't know guys what you think ,because i watch porn doesn't mean that i am depressed without energy or with a lot of problems,i cant wait for the perfect time to keep living my life, this is the problem of nofap. I do more things that more people do,so there is no reason to wait,ok i might have pied if i dont try having sex with a girl i will never know.I prefer to have relationships with women and find out with them that i have pied rather that staying single without any connection hopping that one day i will stop relapsing so i can continue living my life.
     
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  19. HardWorkOnly

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    I WILL BLOCK NOFAP BECAUSE I HAVE THE FEELING THAT MOST PEOPLE HERE ARE GETTING OBSESSED WITH NOFAP AND GIVE BAD ADVICE,I WAS IN THE SAME PLACE AND NOTHING CHANGED SO I HAVE TO TAKE DIFFERENT ACTION
     
  20. Do you.....tell her before you get to that point that you are a recovering porn addict? There are definitely women who would not be interested in that with a former/current addict and do not want to be used as a tool for you to test your recovery.
     

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