Being "behind" in life due to PMO addiction & it's impact on dating

With or without a car or house you still will face rejection. Having both does help but only to a certain extent. Having limited dating experience at 24 is somewhat common, that's relatively young and you shouldn't be embarrassed about it. Try to go out and meet some new girls this year.

 

That is a young age.

You say you're behind but on who's terms? Some of us are late bloomers and it takes us time to be where we want to be.

 

Getting your stuff together financially is one thing. That’s something you can be upfront about, and let them decide. I think it’s smart to get your living and transport situations squared away before actively seeking relationships, but I wouldn’t turn down an opportunity to date just because that’s still in process. Getting your stuff together physically and psychologically, though, is an issue.

The PIED isn’t, in my opinion, such an issue in itself as it’s indicative of a much stronger psychological dependence on porn, and an entire mindset surrounding sex. Those are the things you absolutely need to fix in yourself before you are good to enter into an emotionally intimate relationship. By the time you fix those, your physical sensitivity should have the opposite problem.

Again, this is something you can be upfront about. If she’s okay with the fact that you can only go 3 weeks without using porn, that’s between the two of you. As a married guy, though, I wouldn’t consider making myself romantically available unless I had already proven to myself I could go 90 days, and not crave it the entire time. That would be sufficient proof, I would hope, that I had found an equilibrium and was no longer dependent on porn.

 

I think men are more concerned about those things than women are. It's not about whether you live with your parents (you're also very young and I would say it's very normal for someone your age to be living with parents and not have a career figured out). Those expectations come from a time when you could support a family on close to a minimum wage job. So it's not about whether you live with them, it's what you do with it.

Live with your parents and have healthy hobbies, stay active? Help them with maintenance of the living space and help keep the space clean without them handing you a chore chart? Help out with older relatives because you love them and take care of people you love? Try to give back as much support as they give you? All good and wonderful. Husband material 100%. My husband lived at home when I met him. He was a vital part of his family's life and took care of them as much as they took care of him. Put off some weekend time with me because he mowed his aging grandparents' yard and took care of his responsibilities first. Saved his money wisely. I owned my own home, etc, and it never bothered me at all.
Live with your parents and play video games too much/daily? Do parents take care of more than 2/3 share of work around the house? Do they prepare food for you and you never prepare food for your family? Do they do your laundry instead of you doing theirs? Do you spend money foolishly because of lower expenses living at home? Absolute turn off.
It's the "mama's boy" thing. Women don't hate Mama's boys. We don't want to date men who have been normed to be treated like toddlers by the main women in their lives. Or who have been normed to treat their mothers like toddlers. Healthy loving relationship with their mother is a huge green flag.

100% a man bent over his phone with his junk in his own hand is always a huge turn off. A man wanting to go pmo is a huge turn off. Definitely focus on getting well into recovery before starting anything, but also realize that these other things you're worried about are just not really big deals at your age to actual women looking for long term stable relationships.