47 days in, should i keep going or quit?

TheCarver · May 29, 2023

Sleeperhead said: ↑

Perhaps if you did enough cold approaches to where you get really charismatic and confident then it would work, you will have to do it in such a way that is natural and not as if you have psyched yourself up to go talk to these girlies, you would have to do it with zero expectation and face the indifference of many women who are just going about their business and don't want to bothered, there are better uses of your time and energy.

Wait for them to invite you to talk to them. Next time you are out and about, you aren't out to meet girls, but if the opportunity is there then take it. Don't stare at any of the girls just mind your own business, if you see a girl looking at you hold eye-contact for a few seconds, but it has to be natural. This is what I mean by girls choosing you, if a girl is looking at you, or smiling at you, acting nervous these are indications of interest, and when you see them you have the green light to approach. Count down from 3 and go make conversation with her ask her how her day is going or something. Don't pay her any compliments it's not the way to build attraction.

Online dating is a good way to meet girls too, but you need a good profile to get matches, this means professional quality photos, looks maxing and an interesting and captivating profile. Getting the matches is one thing, getting them on a date is another thing this is where game comes in.

I have looked at the picture you posted you are way out of shape. You need to lose weight and put muscle on asap before even thinking about girls. Your face is decent, and your hair is alright - certainly not ugly, but a million miles from being looks maxed. Look at all the male celebrities they are physically in shape and have an incredibly masculine look, most have at the very least some light stubble.

You could easily get a girlfriend if you put the work in.
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Sleeperhead said: ↑

You start by reducing your calorie intake. Write down all the calories you consume and then reduce it by like 400-500 that will put you in a calorie deficit. You can start jogging if you want faster results, but the main problem people have with weight is their diet. The standard american diet is incredibly poor and the majority of people are malnourished and they are starving for nutrients despite being overweight, so they consume too many calories because their body is craving nutrients.

What you want is high quality red meat, grass-fed as opposed to grain fed. The nutrient content of animal products are much higher than any other food. This means you will be satiated and won't over-consume calories, you will have a much easier time staying lean and building muscle. You don't need to track protein just eat 1-2 pounds of red meat every day along with a large portion of carbs like rice or something. Oh and stay away from processed sugar.

As for working out you need to get yourself in the gym bro. If you can't do that then I recommend push ups, its what I do. I do about 300 push ups a day, if I really pushed myself I could get to 500 a day. If you have weights do arms curls at least. Do repetitions until failure. Since you have a good nofap streak, working out is way easier.

Good luck.
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i have a 6 pack in 30 days app installed on my phone im thinking walking for 30 mins a day plus that would be enough? i looked into looks maxxing and it recommends “liss cardio”

so what you are saying is if myfitness pal says my calories are 1800 a day i reduce that by 500? i don’t really eat red meat, i eat chicken though.

also isnt rice just useless carbs? just 1/4 cup is 160 calories. do i also need to be in a deficit everyday or do i have more freedom to eat on the weekends and more processed foods?

pmofreeliving · Jun 20, 2023

Consistency is key. A Calorie deficit will help with loosing fat for sure but don't expect to see any visual results for at least a month. If you go to the gym every day, you will see results, but focus of the process not the result and you will get much, much further. Your brain has been wired to seek instant gratification, so it's important to focus on the process and be happy with that. The results will come if you stay consistent.

As for girls, just start approaching. You can meet girls literally anywhere. If you're at the grocery store, and you notice someone attractive, go up to them and tell them that they look beautiful, ask them how their day is going, ask them about what their name is, and see if you can get their number to continue the conversation. You might get rejected 100 times, but if you keep trying with different ideas and approaches, eventually someone will say yes. Just Keep Going. Theres a quote by will smith that goes "You don't try to build a wall, you don't set out to build a wall. You don't say 'I'm going to build the biggest, baddest, greatest wall that's ever been built. ' You don't start there… You say 'I'm going to lay this brick as perfectly as a brick can be laid. And if you do that enough times, eventually you will have a wall."

Just Keep Going.

pmofreeliving · Jun 20, 2023

TheCarver said: ↑

i have a 6 pack in 30 days app installed on my phone im thinking walking for 30 mins a day plus that would be enough? i looked into looks maxxing and it recommends “liss cardio”

so what you are saying is if myfitness pal says my calories are 1800 a day i reduce that by 500? i don’t really eat red meat, i eat chicken though.

also isnt rice just useless carbs? just 1/4 cup is 160 calories. do i also need to be in a deficit everyday or do i have more freedom to eat on the weekends and more processed foods?
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You need to be in a calorie deficit every day in order to loose weight consistently. That doesn't necessarily mean that you have to eat healthy foods every day, but it means that whatever you eat has to add up to a certain amount of calories. Also, sleep plays a big factor in how much fat you will add and loose. Get at least 7 hours each day and only drink alcohol in moderation (1-2 times a week at the most). Calories and carbs are different things, don't get them confused. You actually don't need to do cardio to loose weight, its a myth. But cardio is helpful since when you start weightlifting, you will be more tired, so you will do less exercise in general life than you would normally, so it helps to keep your exercise at a balanced level. I recommend that you look up a calorie calculator online to find out what weight you want to be at and it will tell you what calorie level you have to hit every day in order to hit that goal.

Robert1977 · Jun 20, 2023

47 days, that is incredible!

TheCarver · Jun 20, 2023

pmofreeliving said: ↑

Consistency is key. A Calorie deficit will help with loosing fat for sure but don't expect to see any visual results for at least a month. If you go to the gym every day, you will see results, but focus of the process not the result and you will get much, much further. Your brain has been wired to seek instant gratification, so it's important to focus on the process and be happy with that. The results will come if you stay consistent.

As for girls, just start approaching. You can meet girls literally anywhere. If you're at the grocery store, and you notice someone attractive, go up to them and tell them that they look beautiful, ask them how their day is going, ask them about what their name is, and see if you can get their number to continue the conversation. You might get rejected 100 times, but if you keep trying with different ideas and approaches, eventually someone will say yes. Just Keep Going. Theres a quote by will smith that goes "You don't try to build a wall, you don't set out to build a wall. You don't say 'I'm going to build the biggest, baddest, greatest wall that's ever been built. ' You don't start there… You say 'I'm going to lay this brick as perfectly as a brick can be laid. And if you do that enough times, eventually you will have a wall."

Just Keep Going.
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this a old thread and i since then reset at 62 days cause i just didn’t see any noticeable difference. but im going to get back on the train and aim for a longer streak think the problem was, i wasn’t working out enough like an hour a day. i was only doing 10 minute ab exercises that made me barely break a sweat. as for girls and approaching and stuff, i met a friend online that hung out once, and she said that she would be willing to make the approach for me and suggested we go to a zoo as there will be more girls there because it is just too much of a hassle for me. good or bad idea?

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