I'm about to lose my fucking mind... is it count relapse?

You don't need to beat yourself up because of it, I'd consider it a warning, maybe reset depending on what your goals are. For example in my case it would be a warning, my goals are to stop with PMO. If you kept looking for more and loaded other pictures without masturbation etc. that would be a reset for me, but not a relapse.

So in the end it all comes down to what your goals are.

 

No bro I wouldn’t call it a reset. You’re going to see stuff like this everywhere, our society is so sexualized it’s unavoidable. If you see a hot girl on social media, there’s nothing wrong with checking her out and feeling attracted to her.

It’s possible these pictures/videos on social media can give you a similar rush you get from seeing porn, because they are both pixelated, especially when you reduce your porn intake and you start becoming aroused much easier because your brains sensitivity is increasing. Personally, I deleted social medias to avoid this completely, but don’t beat yourself about something like this, recognize you looked too long, and don’t do it again, nothing wrong with seeing a girl, thinking she’s attractive and then moving on.

I do recommend deleting social media though, it’s completely pointless and is full of triggers to lead into porn.

 

Delete the motherfukin Instagram and turn your phone off, you can't be cool while staying in hell.

 

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Yess sir, you are certainly right , gotta be careful and alert , these influencer produce erotic content for popularity and destroy youth,. Open your eyes .....

 

Slow down. You’re okay. It’s going to be okay. NoFap isn’t a single, do or die choice where it all burns to the ground if you mess up just once. It’s a lifestyle, and it’s a process you learn.

Think about a tightrope walker. He didn’t step out on a thin wire stretched over Niagara Falls the first time he tried. He started slow, and he fell a lot. He didn’t stop when he failed, he just got up and tried again, and sometimes he regressed. Sometimes he fell sooner than he used to. Sometimes he fell a lot of times in a row, then he had to step back and pause, reassess, figure out what he was doing wrong, and recenter. It’s about persistence.

No. A reset is when you slip, and you cross whatever boundary you set for yourself. You M’d, or O’d, or looked at P. It all depends on where you draw your own line. A relapse is when you say “Screw it,” and you abandon your NoFap goal altogether, for a while. It usually includes a binge. For me, when I use multiple days in a row, I’ll call that a relapse.

At worst, what you did was a reset. It’s a slip and fall. Resets are not ideal by any means, but they aren’t catastrophic. You can get back up and try again. You can’t resume right in the middle of your tightrope walk, you do have to start on your platform, at the beginning. But as long as you don’t let it get in your head, as long as you recenter and take it step by step again, you can do it. You are going to be okay.
That’s why I think it’s a mistake to only record your current streak. If you track total clean days since you started, and as long as you see a trend, not necessarily an unbroken series of improvement, but a trend toward longer streaks, you are doing great.

All of that said, what you did sounds like P to me. Not M or O, not yet, but definitely P. It was intentionally erotic content, and you kept going back to look at it. You didn’t M, but to be honest, if it were me I’d probably M within the next 24 hours anyway. That’s just how it works for me, it’s the pattern I’ve discovered. If I give my addicted brain just a little foothold, it works deeper and pushes me further than I said I’d go. You can draw your own boundaries, but that’s where mine are.

I second all of these brothers. They have your back. Delete IG, you don’t need it. Neither do you need TikTok, YouTube, Twitter, or any other social media. Not only are they loaded with personalized algorithms you subconsciously designed while addicted to PMO, they have little good things to offer, proportional to the absolute junk and waste of time. You’ll live a better life without it, I swear.

 

Yessssir, you are hundred percent right.

 

I just want to add too, deleting social media is not always the case, I had a real problem with my instagram being a trigger for me to go and watch P. My girlfriend saw this on my instagram and I could see how it hurt her so I ended up making a new account, I haven’t had any issues with it so far, no sexualisation of anything or anyone, I’ve found if you don’t look for it/ interact with it at all it won’t be on your algorithm at all.

I do want to note too that social media can be a place to search that up and can lead to PMO, if that was your intention when going on these apps I think it’s best to delete them. Although, if it’s not, and you enjoy other genres on social media and want to feel “connected” but not be detrimental to your journey, I’d definitely recommend making new accounts.

 

It's up to you whether it's a relapse or not. It depends on your goals. If you're going Monk Mode, then, yes, it's probably a relapse. If you're going hard mode or easier than no.