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Reclaiming The Purity of Mind

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by eyesnomore, Mar 8, 2014.

  1. Mar 8, 2014 #1
    eyesnomore

    eyesnomore Fapstronaut

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    Hey everyone,

    I'm on my second week of no pmo. So far it's been really good, and I think mostly because of my awesome accountability partner. But I have another problem I've been trying to deal with.

    So you know avoiding porn and masturbation is simple. Just don't do it. Not saying it's not hard, but it's obvious. Here you are and it is over there. You have to physically move to engage in it.

    I'm having a hard time with the girls out in the world. Restraining myself from looking. It's just so effortless and gratifying, but also disgusting and disrespectful I think.

    Mildly ogling girls has become so automatic over the years. Here a beautiful lady, and I out of habit, repeatedly look with lust. And this does not help at all with avoiding pmo.

    I have definitely become more self aware about where my mind is at since I joined nofap and it's dirty. Just wondering if anyone had any comments/suggestions about reclaiming the purity of mind that once was? Innocence cannot be regained but I think cleanliness can.
     
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  2. Mar 8, 2014 #2
    CrazyGopher

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    As far as ogling girls when out and about, for me it was a huge problem when I got started but I think it's gotten better with practice.

    One thing I found helpful is to have something with me to read when I go into public. That makes it hard for my eyes to wander, and I got good at reading while I'm walking.
     
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  3. Mar 8, 2014 #3
    eyesnomore

    eyesnomore Fapstronaut

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    Good point about the reading, I'll work something out with my phone.

    You're also probably be right about the time-frame. Because thought patterns are so deep rooted I think diligence and patience might be what will resolve the problem. Still though, I feel like I need to be more proactive about it.
     
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  4. Mar 9, 2014 #4
    mac92

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    eyesnomore-

    I feel for you! Between yoga pants at the gym (and everywhere else) and the short shorts that come out whenever the sun does, it makes it even more challenging. On Friday I was at a physical therapist appointment. The assistant was young, fit and very attractive. Wouldn't you know she had to show me some new exercises to work on that required me being on my hands and knees. I literally couldn't let myself look past her head/neck.

    What I've discovered is that checking girls out has to be out of question. Avoid thinking and lusting about them just like you avoid letting your mind wander toward viewing porn.

    There's no easy answer I've found. However my first few reboot attempts I was MUCH more aware of girls than I am this time around. Not sure why, but appreciating the extra easiness it has given me.

    Good luck!
     
    mac92, Mar 9, 2014
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