16 Month Update

Well done.

 

Very cool, encouraging and inspiring. :::thumbs up:::

 

Nice work, I dream of getting to that stage within the next 2 years.

 

Thanx for posting. I love to hear that you are married.

 

Great job bud!!
If you don't mind, I have a question about withdrawals...
I am on day 82, I am still having severe brain fog and fatigue. Did you experience any withdrawals? And if so at around what day did you feel consistently good? I am averaging one good day a week. The rest I'm in zombie phase!

Kind regards

 

How many month or day did you feel free or is it a constant struggle? How long did you go without ejaculation? Just curious because it been 44 days for me

 

Congrats!!!! when did you say to your gf that you were on nofap? and what is the best type of sex of a rebooter can have? I hear that the best is karezza, that allows more intimacy and you dont need to ejaculate.

 

Very inspiring. Thanks for coming back to share this. It was hard for me to imagine the other side of this. Great stuff.

 

Just want to say that this is very inspiring post man! Happy for you and your wife! I strive as well to wait until marriage to have sex as I'm still a younger guy and your post has definitely given me something to look up to for experience in beating this addiction. Sounds like it was worth the wait, keep it up man you deserve it!

 

Phibz is absolutely right. When you are in this reboot it is tough to picture the end result of this. I just know it's there and I have to keep fighting this day by day. It's good to hear the other, positive side of this and that this battle WILL come to an end, eventually. Hero One, thanks for coming back here to visit us and I wish you and your wife continued success.

 

Hi Hero One

I have just finished reading about your journey, and it resonated with an old part of me. I remembered some of my own personal development principles, as well as Good to Great, which happenned to be a personal favourite.

My journey started five years ago. PMO addiction was not really the purpose of it. It was at that time more about building up my own character, setting goals and getting what I want. Somewhere along that path I happened to make my own personal challenges. One of them was not drinking for a month. Another not PMOing for around the same time. I did not know about this community, neither would I care. I was just riding the wave and going for something grand. Or so I thought. It was a flow state that lasted for a while. Things came easily. I got what I wanted and I kept at it... for a while. If you have asked me two years to do - say a 90 day PMO challenge, I would laught and do it. Fully. It was the "Flywheel", so to say.

Through the last two years the "Silent Killer", as you call it, or complacency started gaining ground. For the last month I've been watching meaningless videos (from gaming to P). My character is a shell of its former self. The morning enthusiasm is replaced by apathy. Long-term goals have been abandoned. Instead of looking for why I can, I dwelve in cynism about the state of humanity and personal excuses. I have been hitting new and new personal lows for a while. I got lazy. The habbits started controlling me, instead of the other way around.

Yesterday I decided it was enough, and have committed to the 90 day normal challenge from today. PMOing has been a part of my life that does not serve my life purpose in any way, and it is a concrete enough place to start. To live life to the fullest again and get the momentul of personal growth going.

I can not post my own thread yet - there are still some silly likes I gotta get before.

However. This is when I wake up from an accidental slumber and commit to the path once again. One thing is different this time. It is no longer about achieving some goals. It is about having a worthy enough journey, so I can look myself in the mirror in an old age. PMOing has no place in this journey.

 

Well that is the thing. I have come to a point where mindset and knowledge are not enough to drive me towards a fullfilling future. I have lots of academic and practical knowledge on how to achieve behavoural change, and have assisted others in it. Right now, I have run out of the intrinsic motivators. But I am now at a point, where I do feel and can honestly admit that instant gratification practices like PMO are destroying life quality and removes me from experiencing life fully. I want to have the heart in the "doing" again, and porn will not create such a connection (no matter how I/we try to rationalize it)

I have been proud to be the one, that knew exactly what I want. Short term and long term. I have experienced success on so many levels. Going from being socially awkward to being the social center. From "not getting it" with the opposite sex to getting a gourgeous girl back at my place after 30 minutes of coffee chit chat. I am with a wonderful woman now. The success on the personal level has applied to my professional life too, mind you. Right now it is all hitting a plateau. The drive has dissappeared and there is no "goal", which is meaningful enough to pursue fully right now.

I know that I want the passion to grow back. I can feel that so many people on this forum here have reconnected with the passion to live. It is radiating from so many messages, such as yours. So my solution for now is to peel the layers of unhealthy habbits and get to the core. PMOing and youtube video addiction do not belong on my journey any more. Regardless of how I try to rationalize it.

And thanks for the last words! I will reply on this thread again, once I make my own 90 day normal mode diary again. Your feedback on my progress can be interesting to read.