I think life would be easier without a sex drive

Life without a sex drive is a thing for eunuchs and sages my friend. If you want to remain worldly and live a fruitful life with many worldly blessings, having a powerful sex drive can be likened to having a rocketship to take you straight to awesometown, if you know how to harness the energy that is.

You seem to be in a negative place right now, and no doubt you need to figure this out for yourself, but let me just shed some insights I have gained from learning to live with a powerful sex drive.

First off, become familiar with sexual transmutation. Napolean Hill is the godfather of this idea. Mark Queppet also sheds alot of insight on how to learn to master your sexuality. If you are more spiritual or into eastern ways of thinking, I suggest you become familiar with sublimation of sexual energy into spiritual energy, come to know meditation.

I kind of doubt you want to become a monk or swami, so you are best off learning how to harness and transmute the sex drive, but I'll just drop this link for peeps who are curious what swamis do with their sex energy, it's pretty fascinating: http://www.dlshq.org/download/brahma_nopic.htm.

Your sex drive is not your enemy my child, it is your greatest ally once you grow wise enough to harness it

 

That's the worse thing you could wish for yourself ! There's so many guys out there that would do anything to regain their sex drive and manhood. Use your high sex drive as an advantage, and just like Tsulog said, channel your drive to other activities. I know how you feel, but don't worry, if you keep trying and don't give into your cravings, it's possible. All you need is SELF DISCIPLINE.

Here's some tips I wrote recently:

http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?6193-How-to-resist-fapping-for-60-days

Also worth a read:

http://boldanddetermined.com/2011/10/24/how-to-harness-your-sexual-energy/

 

I agree with you 100% - "I hate my sex drive and would gladly pay a hefty price to never have to deal with it again. Fuck biology." Well said!

 

I've also had these thoughts; that if I completely got rid of my sex drive at least one, hopefully a few, of my issues would go away. I've thought of many things to achieve it, but at the end I realized I was just trying to put a quick fix to a symptom and completely lost track of the root cause. So, watch out. Make sure you think it through and before you take any lamentable actions, understand what's really bothering you.

 

Hi OG, I had exactly the same thought in the midst of my addiction. I wished there were a switch I could use to totally eliminate the sex drive, and maybe to turn it back on when I wanted it, rather than the helpless feeling of being a total slave to my lust. Now that I am clean I am not a slave to my lust, and I don't need a switch.

Keep going, porn is not an option.

 

Hey I noticed something today. Its been sunny in England (which is quite rare!) and of course the female form has been significantly less 'covered' and I have to say that the last time it was 'sunny' here I would have been walking into lamposts and just end up feeling like a dog with two dicks and all the resultant 'frustrations' etc. But today was different, very different and sometimes you hardly notice a change and then something happens and you realise how far you've come. I still noticed but I didn't 'stare' or feel 'frustrated' etc. The 'filters' that I used to view women through (my brain on porn!) are no longer present and there was no objectifying etc. Just 'people' with no 'images' being 'superimposed' by the shit implanted via exposure to porn. And at one point we walked past a particularly attractive/lovely pair of women the guy I was with commented (to me) on what a pair of 'dirty bitches' they were and honestly it just sounded absolutely awful not least because I knew how his mind had arrived at that 'interpretation' of two perfectly lovely young women and I'll tell you what it felt mighty good to be free of all that shit!

Just a quick experiment. Stare at something red for about 10 mins then go for a walk and you will be surprised at how many red things you spot, red cars, pillar boxes, phone boxes, red doors, red t-shirts etc etc and even if you only see a few mins of porn a day it will have an even more profound/accumulative effect. But remove it and the world becomes 'balanced' again and thats how I felt today. And balanced = good, REALLY good!!!

 

Sex drive does suck very much! As a Catholic, I must believe that every rule God has made for us, we must obey. God doesn't just make these rules for us to suffer, or put us in discomfort. He makes these rules, so as long as we follow them, we do not suffer. I regret masturbation, and watching porn. Because I have broken God's rule I need to suffer a little for it.

I hope that offered you a little light Let me know if it did.

~Squeaky Soul

 

I can not comprehend need to call some random women a dirty bitch.
I like women, i like to watch them and Im capable doing that without pervert thought in my head.
I think that life without sex drive would be pointless specially because you would not have need to procreate, whats the point of life then? To live one lifetime and die like fruit fly? Even they leave someone or something behind them.
Key is mastering and controlling your urges. I think that most beautiful thing in the world is smile of little kid you created thanks to your sex drive (even i do not have kids but i would like to).
Wishing not to have sex drive is just playing wrong, at least in my mind.

 

Absolutely and sex drive (sexual energy) is necessarry/natural, just totally misdirected and misunderstood for the main part as porn has turned most men into slaves to the lowest possible common denominator when it comes to expending and wasting the very fuel that they could be utilising to drive them forward into versions of themselves unimagined by a mind 'pickled' in porn (not to mention the crap thats imposed upon us via media/games etc etc)

And the guy I mentioned is a big porn watcher and so his sex drive is completely distorted and when you consider how women are so often referred to on porn sites you can see how his mind has been 'educated' in such a way that his automatic/pavlovian response to attractive women is to view them as 'dirty bitches' and another favourite of his which is 'shagging machines' which is just plain disturbing and its good to be part of a community that has seen all that for what it is at to have moved/be moving beyond all that crap with sex drive/sexual energy very much alive and kicking, just more respected and appropriately directed etc.

http://www.nofap.org/forum/showthread.php?4054-Getting-Started-with-Sexual-Energy-Transmutation

 

Just a quickie to say that if I could use a word to describe how I feel it would be 'liberated' in the sense that sex drive/energy is very much there but not misinterpreted/misdirected by a distorted brain and I guess thats the basic idea of the 90 day re-boot?

 

This is a really interesting this topic. I have said the same thing myself on many occasions. The amount of time that I get to enjoy intimate great sex compared to without it, and just jacking off is soooo imbalanced. I have even thought about is it to get medication to reduce hormones in the body. I know they give that to really wrong people. Thinking that the overall amount of time that I think about it and how much it, really has pissed me off the past.

When it comes to sex drive, we are almost all enslaved by it, period, all our ancestors were, and all our future generations will be as well. Porn is the best example of how twisted sex has become in our time, it is the most extreme example. It's horrific to know that very likely it will only get worse and worse for the masses. In addition western society outside of porn does it as well. Sex has become for more casual than what it was a few generations ago porn is by-product of this. Women dress more provocatively in western societies than what they used to, this makes it even more of a challenge to withdraw from sex completely.

The point that I want to make is I believe the person who can use their sexual energy and convert it into making the world a better place. Not by just reproducing of course, but to focus their energy on solving the world's biggest challenges, if more people could commit all their sexual energy in this manner, the world will be a far better place. How much sex did some of the great minds have to help mankind technologically advance?

 

so essentially you are wishing the part of yourself that you cannot control would not exist.

wouldn't it be better if you could rather harness all the energy and use it as intened as opposed to wasting it?

 

Delirius, you are absolutely right of course. To be able to use my sexual energy on more of what it is intended to be used for would be great. Not to waste it on lights and pixels or fantasies. To describe it on a very shallow level, to have great sex with women for sure, that is a higher existence than just blowing a load into a tissue. That is of my primary goals which I hope to get out of doing NoFap. Others things include better concentration, knowing how to deal with pain properly rather than just run away from it, reduced social anxiety, not suffer from any kind of mental ED either.

I think that my biggest issue is that I do not know how to deal with emotional pain properly. Speculatively speaking I think this is the biggest obstacle for most to overcome with NoFap.