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So what do I tell my gf?

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Reboot Jake, Mar 11, 2014.

  1. Mar 11, 2014 #1
    Reboot Jake

    Reboot Jake Fapstronaut

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    Hello, I'm Jake, 27 from London. I want to do 30 days without fapping.

    I have a girlfriend so I'm confused about nofap. If we keep having sex, then I feel like that's going to make me more likely to fap. Because I've noticed that if I fap (or fuck) after a few days without, then I want to do it again the next day because my testosterone is up (or whatever - insert science here).

    But I can't quit sex because she'll be upset. I'm not going to tell her about nofap because she doesn't know how much I fap anyway. She thinks I don't watch porn.
     
    Reboot Jake, Mar 11, 2014
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  2. Mar 11, 2014 #2
    Ballinhard

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    Dude just tell her you're going through a purification process and don't want to have sex or get mad or abuse any substance for some time. if she gets sad or mad over sex then there's a problem in the foundations of the relationship...
     
    Ballinhard, Mar 11, 2014
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  3. Mar 11, 2014 #3
    Freezingcold

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    Hi Jake. Why do you feel the need of going 30 days without fapping? beacuse if everything's alright in your sex life there should be no reason to go without it. :) thats my personal opinion anyway.
     
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  4. Mar 11, 2014 #4
    Reboot Jake

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    Well, because I fap a lot and watch porn and think it might be bad for me. Sex is good, but then why am I fapping so much?
     
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    Reboot Jake, Mar 11, 2014
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  5. Mar 11, 2014 #5
    Freezingcold

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    You might not need to stop fapping, but rather quit the porn. It screws with your brain! I'm not good at explaining how, but I really recommend you take a visit to yourbrainonporn.com and look at the videos on it there!
     
    Freezingcold, Mar 11, 2014
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  6. Mar 11, 2014 #6
    Sunshine

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    I would just be upfront with her and tell her about the porn problem :) She can be a huge support for you (my boyfriend has been one for me) and having her know will change the way you look at it. I now look at watching porn as directly hurting someone I love, which is much different than me just doing it because I want to. She would be a great accountability partner, I think that trust and being honest are important so being upfront with her about it could bring you closer together :)
     
    Sunshine, Mar 11, 2014
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  7. Mar 12, 2014 #7
    Freezingcold

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    have you told her? :) hope it goes well!
     
    Freezingcold, Mar 12, 2014
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