I'm back. I thought I was cured, but I wasn't.

You've experienced what so many others have experienced when they thought they'd nailed it. It's what I've found to be the biggest destroyer of progress on your journey. It's complacency - the silent killer.

Letting your guard down for just a moment, getting into the mindset that 'you've beaten it', not doing the determined, intentional things you've been doing for the past 6 months.

The good news is, complacency can only strike when you're doing the right thing. Whatever you did for the past 6 months worked - you were on the right track - you just stopped challenging yourself, and that's all it takes.

Now, Lioness, the hardest thing to do is to get going again. Try and not think of this as 'starting again', but simply continuing your journey. You've done it before - you can do it again - only this time, it's charted territory, so go and conquer it.

I really do hope you can push past this, get back on the horse and get back to being a better you. You know how great it feels. Hold onto that.

We're with you. Keep going. Stay strong.

-H1

 

I hit 90 days no m this week and its at the back of my mind about complacency and relapse. I really do just want to keep.going now, no going back. I guess that also mean being here for a long time yet.

Wish you luck!

 

Six months, masturbation and porn free is very commendable. I recently completed seven months myself (also hard mode). In my case, I fell to one session of P/subs two weeks ago an one PMO three days ago. It is not possible to 'diagnose' what had happened in your case @Lioness, because you do not provide enough detail. But if you can do so, it may be possible to find out why this happened and deteriorated to such a degree. But don't give up hope. You have proven to yourself what extraordinary self-control you can have. This is a serious setback for sure, but a recoverable one.

 

Well said Hero One. That was straight from the heart. People like you make this forum so wonderful! Stay strong!