10 years of ED, borderline suicidal

Man you do not want to go that path. If you relapse you can always get back up, but if you take your own life, you can not get back up. There are lots of people who have the same problem here as you or we do,whether it be ED , P addiction, excessive M,or maybe premature ejaculation , but we only differ in how we approach and solve it. I have read that it takes usually about 5 months for the
effects of excessive masturbation to finally change, I have never made it to 5 months, only 4 days without PMO, but I am willing to find out if it is totally true, are you willing too?

 

Amnonongus - I have really similar experiences to you. I'm 25, have had various sexual experiences with women sexually, my ED had gotten ever worse during the last 7 years. And, like you, I never masturbated to particularly hardcore stuff. In fact, I would masturbate to pics a lot of the time. The point wasn't how 'hardcore' it was, the point was that I was retraining my brain to find sexual satisfaction in something that wasn't another human being. And the shame and embarrassment I felt was all-consuming. I thought a lot about suicide. Then I discovered NoFap. And started healing. Still, though, earlier this year I got the opportunity to have sex with one of the hottest women I had ever been with (because I was on a really good streak with NoFap, I felt like I had 'superpowers' etc). The first time we had sex was great cos I hadn't masturbated in a while, but after that all my old ED came back. It takes a while to go away, for your brain to heal. Now, though, I am on a much better streak and have had sex with a new woman a few times and my ED has gone! It feels amazing! The best sex I've ever had.

It takes a while for your brain to rewire - but it will. Join this community. Find an accountability partner. Go on yourbrainonporn.com for some tips. It will be a difficult journey. But it will be worth it. Save your life.

 

Hey man! I don't have what you have, but lots of people do. The normal recommendation here is 90 days with no porn, masturbation, or sex. Even if you don't make it the full 90, try to put as much time as possible between instances of using porn. If you make it 4 days this time, try to make it 5 or more next time. The bottom line is that pornography is not good for you or anyone you want to have a relationship with, and the closer you get to letting go completely, the more you'll be able to live your life in a way that feels authentic to you. IT WILL WORK. It's really hard to see it or believe it when you're right in the middle of the struggle, but it does happen, and you'll be amazed how quickly some of the positive little changes in your brain and body start to take place. Take a look at the Success Stories section, too.

I've seen a few versions of the "recipe for success" on NoFap, but you'll find that there are similar elements to many of them. Accountability, exercise, sleep habits, internet filters, keeping a journal, learning about the brain and science of addiction, and appealing to a higher power through meditation or prayer seem to be some of the main things that help people. Keep coming back, there's a lot to learn!

 

I'm just going to add a caveat to this. You could actually have non-porn-induced erectile dysfunction. You won't really know until you've tried going longer without porn though.

 

Yeah that's absolutely correct. The 90 day thing is arbitrary. People are different, bodies are different, situation, diets, exercise, other factors all come into play. 90 days is just a general rule that a lot of people here have found works for them. As the saying goes, "your results may vary."

What we do know is that it works for a lot of people, and it might work for you. Personally, I'm just way happier and nicer to be around when I have no involvement with pornography. Try it out, do some reading, take a look at the success stories, see if you can find some things that help. That's why we're here.