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I keep relapsing after 3 days

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Leon Adams, Nov 24, 2015.

  1. Leon Adams

    Leon Adams Fapstronaut

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    Hi fellow Fapstronauts

    I have a problem with me. I keep relapsing after 3 days.

    I want to start not fapping because I have read that people become more confident and happier by not fapping or being addicted to porn.

    I am a porn addict and I have been trying to change my ways for about a 9 months now, ever since I got a girlfriend and we spoke about it. I moved out of her place about 3 months ago because her parents disapproved of us and forcefully kicked me out of the house. So I can't see her at all but we still talk over the phone every day. She is going through some psychology sessions now because the experience of me being thrown out awaken her sexual abuse trauma when she was a child. I have also recently lost my job, so life has been really stressful. My family is pressuring me to get a job or go back to my homeland, which I don't want to because of political turmoil. I am in a lot of stress.

    I have been trying hard not to look at porn materials. Once I went 2 weeks before I relapsed. But after that, it became every 7 days and now every 3 days. I find that after I came, I become depressed over the next 2 days. I think maybe the stress is pushing me? I substituted it with games but I got bored of the games and went back to porn. I find that once I say No to porn, I become empowered, like getting out of a prison cell. But now I feel the addiction is coming back. I tried blocking the websites but I will just go and undo all of the security and go watch them again.

    I want to have great sex with my girlfriend and not feel numb to it when I do see her again. I also want to have this incredible confidence by not fapping. I guess what I am asking for is advice. I know my post is everywhere but I hope you can help me. Thank you.
     
  2. Sierra Papa

    Sierra Papa Fapstronaut

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    Honestly -if you can- just completely cut off the internet. Take a "holiday" if you like from the internet. Instead of using your laptop or computer just go to a library or something if you need to research. The point of the exercise is to un-trigger the sexual drive in your head, and going some days without it will refurbish your view on porn and your will-power, so, coming back to the internet after a long vacation won't be detrimental... It will be easier.

    GL buddy!
     
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  3. anewcreature

    anewcreature Fapstronaut

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    This worked for me ^^
     
  4. msmahamed

    msmahamed Fapstronaut

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    Bro, it sounds like you've got some shit on your plate.

    The first thing I would do is focus on what you can do first. Take everyday one step at a time, cause Rome wasn't built in a day, all your problems aren't gonna melt away instantly. Don't look at NoFap as an achievement, rather a lifestyle change. And as I've said before, change takes time. Keep steady on that job search, if you keep a positive attitude you should get something.

    Become comfortable with being uncomfortable, and focus on what you can do right now, rather than what you can't.
     
  5. Booster

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    Giving up addictions are the hardest thing you will ever have to do, Your brain will look for any weakness for you to get your "fix". In This case it knows how to get its dopamine.

    Training your brain to not act on the urges is the best way forward, every time you get the urge do the same thing, but something productive and distracting. so your brain soon learns not to expect PMO
     
  6. stolenpiano

    stolenpiano Fapstronaut

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    Install NoFap app, it has connection with the website's emergency, rejection etc. buttons. Use it when your urges are rising.

    Good luck, friend. Hope you get what you want.
     

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