shouldn't we be aiming at a lifestyle change?

I think you're right. But the important question is: how? Rearranging the furniture?

 

Yeah, I actually do think it's a good idea Especially right when you make the change, change your environment somehow so that this internal change has a physical manifestation. I think my room has too much stuff in it.. Mental overload. I think I'll change it up, rearrange everything to look more ascetic, remove all the junk.. It can only help

I could also buy a yoga mat, and use it for my meditation, instead of sitting in bed. Maybe I should look into feung shuay (however you spell that..) Just something so that I will enter my room and immediately feel zen and think, "PMO is the farthest thing from something a person like me would do"

 

Haha nice! Yeah, who would want to PMO in a suit? Too much stuff in the way!

 

This is the key.
Changing your environment, changing your habits, changing your lifestyle.
How can we expect to defeat our addiction if we don't make a change?
I got to 30 days of without PMO while I was in another nation. Different school, different
lifestyle. Everything was different and I never relapsed there.
Now I'm back to the environment where my addiction started, and the only thing
that makes me stay away from PMO is changing my routine.

 

Actually, small changes to your environment can help. If you sit in your old chair, where you have PMO'ed many times, it can trigger an urge just sitting in that chair.

in this addiction book, they actually mention rearranging the furniture .

https://books.google.ca/books?id=zvbr4Zn9S9MC&pg=PA776&lpg=PA776&dq=rearrange+furnature+to+change+addiction+cues&source=bl&ots=PlD60i4yVH&sig=RHCbSdYauN9H7B_e4xFNiDFzmaA&hl=en&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwib0eX-9cfJAhWL64MKHexdAVMQ6AEIHjAA#v=onepage&q=rearrange furnature to change addiction cues&f=false

 

Don't laugh, rearranging the furniture might be a great example, as I see many others have agreed. feo1966 is right about the environment being as much of a trigger as watching P itself. It become familiar and comfortable, there are great memories attached to your PMO environment. Make some significant changes.

*B49*

 

Yeah NoFap is a lifestyle change in itself but also other things do change around you. New habits and what not that help you succeed. Keep up the good work and attitude!

 

Big changes to your environment are great, and really motivating, they can be really cathartic. But I like @SolidStance's toothpaste example too… the little things, done consistently, can make a big difference. If you make your environment just 1% better every day, you'll start to see huge improvements!

 

It's the same things as the book The Slight Edge is describing, which I am currently reading at the moment. I will recommend it to everybody who would like to explore this idea of small changes that accumulate over time. It is a very good book often mentioned on this forum: http://www.amazon.com/The-Slight-Edge-Turning-Disciplines/dp/193594486X

 

Great personal development book. Love the story examples in it.

*B49*

 

Absolutely.

I started a new hobby around the time I stopped PMO. I now fill my time working on that instead of feeding my addiction. I have a routine that on weekends, I am out in the backyard, working on making my bow. Whereas I used to laze around the house until I gave into the urge to PMO, then I would fall back asleep.

I also do not watch movies by myself anymore (we do not watch TV at all). If there is something I want to watch, I wait until my wife is available to watch it with me.

I also do not play video games anymore. I was exhibiting addictive behaviors regarding video games, and was concerned that it would lead to a PMO relapse. So I quit that as well.

I made more changes, but so far, those are the only ones I've stuck to. The point is, without making changes like these, I'm not sure where I would be right now, but I have a feeling I know what I would be doing....

So, should we be aiming at a lifestyle change? Yes, absolutely. And if the way you start with that is by rearranging your furniture, then you may need some of these: www.amazon.com.

I wish you all the greatest success on your journey.