Journey to Freedom - A Guide to beating PMO, by Hero One

Gladiatori · Nov 25, 2015

When English use English, they sure put the right into their write .

Iwillchange · Dec 1, 2015

Thanks for sharing H1! Just started my journey to solve this problem once and for all.

ad_nex · Dec 6, 2015

brilliant insight of yours hero one.. it has indeed motivated me about how to chalk out my strategies to counter this bad thing... once again thanks brother keep up the good work...

terminalparadox · Dec 6, 2015

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4. The Silent Killer

There will come a point in your journey when you'll feel like you're over the worst your addiction has to throw at you. You might wake up without that overwhelming temptation. You might have a week where you've never felt so energetic: you're sleeping well; eating well; exercising well. Your confidence is at an all-time high. and you're throwing around phrases like "I've got this!" and shooting yourself with finger guns in the mirror. Feeling in control feels great.

But the problem is, I have seen so many addicts go months without a relapse, only to fail, seemingly out of nowhere. Why, when someone seems to have beaten PMO, can it all go wrong?

It comes down to one thing: Complacency. And it's a silent killer on your journey to freedom.

I first learned about this concept from a man named Larry Hill, an author on a variety of books to do with occupational health. But what he discusses in his books can be applied to any area of your life - including that of beating your addiction. He says:

"Complacency leads to mind not on task, or mind not on risk. When you know what you're doing, and you know what the risk is, but you're not thinking about it: That's everywhere."

The moment you think there's not a risk of relapsing, that's when you're in a prime location to fail. Complacency almost always follows a victory, long after the initial success. The good news is, you have to have been doing something right to get into that position. The problem with this is when you stop pressing forward to achieve continued success, but instead sit back and feel content with where you're at. The issue here is that it's hard to spot, because everything feels fantastic.

Complacency is so dangerous because it waits. It's fine when the going is good, but it fails to recognise sudden changes, or acknowledge potential pitfalls.

So how do we combat this silent killer? How, when we feel on top of the world, do we acknowledge we're potentially one step away from falling off the ladder?

1. Don't stop trying.
Success generally comes from some form of risk or change in the way you do something. Your PMO journey began when you stopped looking at porn. You maybe then started implementing new ways to combat it throughout the day: Cold showers, more exercise, healthier eating, etc. But people who are complacent stop mixing it up: they do what's worked for them in the past. Keep bringing new innovations to your life, and keep taking on new challenges.

2. Keep an eye out for your weaknesses.
When we become complacent, we stop looking at our pitfalls. We become confident in our success and can feel untouchable. This can cause us to stop looking forward to navigate potential vulnerabilities. So proud of our past and current success, we can forget to look out for threats just ahead.

3. ''Good' is the enemy of 'Great''
Voltaire said this, and the author, James Collins, wrote a book 'Good to Great' based on the concept. Simply put - don't settle for the 'good' you're achieving, when there's a 'great' just around the corner. Here's a motivational quote for you:

'Good is the enemy of great. And that is one of the key reasons why we have so little that becomes great. We don't have great schools, principally because we have good schools. We don't have great government, principally because we have good government. Few people attain great lives, in large part because it is just so easy to settle for a good life.' ('Good to Great', James C. Collins, 2001)

So be aware that your journey is ongoing, however great you feel. Acknowledge that one of the most dangerous parts of your journey, is when you feel your journey is coming to an end. Don't let your guard down, and I know you can kill the silent killer and continue innovating your life.
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Wow, what a great post! Thank you for writing this relevant and reboot saving post! It's opened my eyes and I'll now be on the look out for areas known and yet to be known, where this deadly enemy has crept in!

Hero One · Dec 6, 2015

terminalparadox said: ↑

Wow, what a great post! Thank you for writing this relevant and reboot saving post! It's opened my eyes and I'll now be on the look out for areas known and yet to be known, where this deadly enemy has crept in!
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Great to hear! I'm 18 months PMO free, and I still have to remember this! It benefits your life across the board, trust me - it's worth taking the time to think about!

All the best,

H1.

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