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HELP o feel like killing myself

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Eshaan, Dec 8, 2015.

  1. Eshaan

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    I have just relapsed from my 3 day streak.....

    I cannot control my urges and adjust sometime they get into my head and o have to open porn to satisfy my needs.

    My other are so hard that I feel to rape any female around me....
    Please please help
     
  2. RdrMGK69

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    Man.do u need to talk. Let me know and we can text. I have kik and Skype and what app
     
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  3. Eshaan

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    Rdr I do not have any.of thesei am now really depressed.I cannot control my urges.the make me do anything.
     
  4. Eshaan

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    I feel like killing myself. I am very foggy right now feeling drained and hopeless.
     
  5. JipJap

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    I'm sorry you feel like this. I can only say that when I felt that evertyhting was hopeless, it always got better in the end. When you're all the way on the bottom of the pit, there's only one way left, and that is the way upwards!

    I'm sure it will get better for you. You too are valueable in this world, even though you may not always feel like it. Whatever you do, don't kill yourself. There are people who care about you. I care about you! PM me if you want to talk.
     
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  6. Eshaan

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    Thanks jipjap,

    I understand today after reading so many success stories that nofap ain't one shot goal.I know feel that relapse is also a part of the procedure.if I continue and avoid next relapses, they will get weaker and weaker and one day I will win.

    Brothers like jipjap are the supporters. Thanks brother. I will make it.
     
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  7. cud

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    Hey man,

    i know that sucks. I have a another bad day today. But i have heard and trying to apply it to my life. Whatever is distrurbing you or make you suffer, just embrace it. The more you fight with anything the more it stay with you!

    The power comes from: "go with the flow!"
     
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  8. Fight it with everything you have. You're better than the porn addiction
     
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  9. cud

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    Sure, fighting FAP is sure thing. I mean fighting with psychological problems as i am dealing with...the more i say "what if.." "If I would done that.." ... it is exhausting!

    But the main thing with FAP is avoiding even tiny start, tiny edge... and you be all right. I have been in my 46days and i could never ever imagine doing that 2months ago and have no urges at all. Staying focus, my guards are up and no edging - finally I have a motivation.

    I have a contribution though - I have wet dreams every week.. had it 3times already....
     
  10. brucecarlmurray

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    I'm in total agreement with Cud in relation to being conscious not to edge, as a strategy to avoid PMO. You can't punish yourself if a few seconds of speculating about PMO or even real world flesh and blood (in the case of a hard reboot), but you have to will your brain to go off topic and you may have to physically walk away from your PMO triggers to avoid physical OR Mental edging. I had to switch off a John Waters movie the other night. It was too close to the edge. I did switch it back on again and there was no temptation, and I had a laugh, but you've got to practice these kinds of coping strategies so your brain can rewire itself.
     
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  11. brucecarlmurray

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    I might not be the best person to help you here. There are more experienced meditation exponents on NoFap, but I think it may be what you need. This process is about avoiding Porn and Fapping, because if you adhere to the theory expressed by Gary Wilson, then your brain will eventually rewire to a less destructive setting BUT you need to get past these early tormented days. This all takes the practice of repeated action, until you learn to negotiate your brain's PMO related functions. So, in a non paniced moment, sit down, close your eyes, breathe slowly in (consciously allowing the air to fill your lungs, as it pushes your stomach to distend), then slowly out, mentally picturing the breath going through your nose and out your nose or mouth. REPEAT. If that isn't enough to distract you from destructive thoughts then do some simple math or rhyming complex multi syllabic words, or something that has A solution, increasing the difficulty of the Multiplication tables (or whatever you choose to process with your intellect), as you simultaneously continue to breathe slowly.
    Dude: there is no universal path to success here, but I can tell you, it does get easier. Let the panic fall away and distract yourself. Later it will get easier. Challenging but not as difficult as you're currently describing.

    Stay Strong!!!!!!!!
     
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  12. Eshaan

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    Thank-you Brucecarlmurray and cud....I am not hopeless anymore,I have not completely recovered from my muscle injury yet but still I am going for my 4:00 am jogging.

    @ cud,I feel very embarrassed as just a day before,I was preaching you like some kind of nofap guru but I myself relapsed.I respect your good nature for not making fun of me.

    I am back on the track....ready to go for a fight back. Thanks for the support everyone.
     
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  13. Eshaan

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    Thanks britaxe....everyone here is better than this addiction that is why we all are here....

    Man I now don't feel like you are just normal people

    We are a family!!!
     
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  14. adam1992

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    Hey brother, it's never too late to start again. You can do it just look at the light at the end of the tunnel
     
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  15. RdrMGK69

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    Glad u r ok
     
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  16. brucecarlmurray

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    Good to hear Eshaan. Stay Strong Brother, and keep searching for the individual strategies that lead to infinite success(es)
     
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  17. Its not about the number of days you've reached. Its about the total progress that you made.
    If you reached 4 days and relapsed, get up try again, willing to beat the addiction and progress is one big step upwards.
    No one managed to make it from the first try. Many many basketball players, football players, businessmen, doctors ... and so on havent made it just with one snap of finger. All of them had to mostly overcome and train themselves, we arent perfect but if we arent perfect, that doesnt mean that we cant work our way to the perfection !
    Take it easy mate, i had the same feeling like you just two weeks ago. Remember, one step at a time amd you'll make it ;)
     
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  18. Eshaan

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    Thank-you everyone for your support. I went today for running at 4:00 am and now ready for a good day
     
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  19. FreedomIsHere

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    Hope you're doing alright man, don't beat yourself up too much over failures. Those feelings go away after sometime, it's only temporary. You can pull through, keep up the fight.
     
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  20. cud

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    You know, the thing is! You have made my day that day and we are all humas we have our flaws, we have to embrace that! Keep going, noone said this will be easy right? So keep going, we have no other chance...as they say, it gets better, so we have to trust them with the faith!
     
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